What to tell ignorant wifes/gf's or bf's.

I've noticed that it's becoming more and more difficult to avoid discussions or arguments or even fights when I play chess online. 

My girlfriend always starts talking to me when I'm in the middle of a game (maybe a short game too when I can't afford to loose a second). I always tell her that I have no time but she can't take it and starts hating me. 

I've told her a million times to just ask "is it ok to talk now?" but she conveniently forgets that, starts talking to me regardless of what I'm doing, and then SHE gets annoyed with ME because I don't pay attention to her.

But in reality she isn't paying attention to me either since she doesn't respect that I'm busy.

She tries to make stupid comparisons that she's gonna respond by telling me she's busy while painting or something. I really don't care even if it's not comparable at all. Chess is on time, if you start doing other things -you loose it's that simple. It's not like you can take a break in the middle of it. 

Anyone has time same problems? 

I kinda have the same problem, my woman uses her phone a lot on gmail and other sites etc... And I try to have convo with her and I find my self having to repeat a lot of what I say. then in the back of my head, I say ok she's busy... so ima start up a chess game... while in the middle of chess NOW she's not busy and asking me questions bla bla bla.. And I say I'm busy hunny... then I get shit on... gg....

holy shit. you dudes are stupid!

if i would like to play a live game when i'm with wifey, i'm not gonna just do it. I'm going to make sure each of us are willing to allow each other the time to do what we want, by discussing it!

teek, if your gf is always online when you need attention from her, you may need another gf.

Just wait you have kids.

You probably either need another girlfriend - or she's just teasing you and pulling your legs - or you have issues with the relationship...

Some people play chess to the detriment of their relationships, too - maybe the lady is actually asking you, what is more important to you, blitz chess or the relationship?

The question is legitimate...

You can reach an agreement that at some point you play for 30 minutes or for an hour without being disturbed. She can watch if she likes, and ask questions after the game - or do something else...

If all else fails - other potential girlfriends are around aplenty... don't tell her I said this. 

Also, if you can't communicate to her a simple message and have her understand it (such as "chess is a timed game, so if you talk to me during it and I lose concentration I risk losing on time"), this is cause for worry in itself, beyond the chess context. This problem will appear in other areas too. 

Hope this helps. 

The basic problem is between the genders..Men can only concentrate on

one thing or two (the 2nd one not so successfully)..but women can attend   to multi chores at the same time..this is one point where a woman scores over

a man but they fail to realize that men are not of their type as far concentration is concerned..and it is teasing and fun to show your possess-  iveness by distracting him from his job on hand unless it is handing her a bundle of dollars/currency which she can utilise for free..

Even for new dress/jewellery/diamonds/precious stones which she may

like..giving you some tution on it's quality/is the fashion in tune with

current times/or the colours ..is a necessity for her although as a male

you may find it logically difficult to cope up with..

Women can multitask - but they do it very badly. 

A woman boasts that she can have a conversation with me while doing something else at the same time. 

Oh yes? So what did I just say?

She has no idea...

So she'd good in PRETENDING to have a conversation to me - "yes, yes" but she understood nothing. 

Do one thing at a time, but do it well. 

Whoa!! What's that here in number 8? This nonsense about women only trying to exploit men for material gain?

People who think this way have no respect for women as human beings, and deserve no success with them until they change their mind. 

Women are people too. You can actually talk to them. They are not all some evil generality. They each have their own personality.

My wife's case is curious. Is not like she doesn't give importance to the game I'm playing (actually she mocks me when I lose; well, when I win too: "such a patzer he must be!"). But for her is more or less like I was watching a TV show, nothing wrong with have a chat at the same time.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pw-8AGRcyvk

First of all. You're clearly lousy at multitasking.

Secondly. She disrespects you and your hobby, and you her by not seeing  to her needs.

Thirdly. Get another girlfriend or alternatively, grow a pair.

And lastly. Nice troll post.

I launch a preemtive strike to avoid this ,which is why always drink beer before playing chess online.After a few beers I log on and then burp really loudly and possibly fart a few times. The first 20 times or so you will get attacked for bad manners after that they tend to sigh, mumble something you definitely don't want to hear and leave the room. It is a very manly way of saying ' stay out of my territory '

I'm not sure I would actually adapt these methods with my own beloved...

Preemptive strike though... you really know how to choose your words, don't you ?! :-) !!!!

Duck...you remind me of a pig I once knew.

Where's the problem? All you have to do is saying things like: "Oh really? Interesting! I agree." She'll be happy to talk to such a great listener who doesn't interrupt her, and you can enjoy your blitz games... ;-)

Maybe if you spend more time with her, going out, etc...