You are pushing your luck, little man.
Why so Serious Chess Community?
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djones559 wrote:
Hey all, I started playing Chess a few months ago and love the game, but I have one complaint: people seem to be overly competitive. Can everyone just try and not take chess so seriously and have more fun. Why cant people say good game to each other even when they lose? We should be happy when we get mated by some beautiful tactic and then encourage our oppenents, not get angry! I mean seriously I hover around 850, that is nothing to be proud of, why get so mad? Why so serious? Do we really love the game, or do we love winning? I think our over competiviness can be damaging to the community and may detract new players from really understanding what chess is all about. Can we all try to have more fun and get along?
What chess is all about? I hate to break it to you, but chess is a competitive game. It takes a lot of effort to get better, there's endless room for improvement, and in a game there can only be 1 winner.
Some people play for fun and don't care about the result, which is not a sin... but don't expect everyone to agree with that view.
It really isn't that cutthroat. Chess is like washing your spouse's soiled underwear. Sure, you don't want to do it and it seems repulsive to the thought of being amorous, but if you do not do it, your spouse will have dirty underwear and there will be no love-time later. Regardless of the competitive nature of your opponents in chess or washing underwear, it is a fact of life and you must keep plugging along. If you fail to do so, there will be no sex and with no sex is no procreation and the end of human civilization. I hope that helps.
The OP asks some good questions but may also have been affected by some bad luck. I've been on this site for over a year now and I have met very very few rude people in live games ( way less than 1%, probably less than 0.1% ). So I do hope that you continue to play here and that you will have better luck in the future in finding friendly opponents. 
Chess is like any sport. Smack-talking and psychology play a role. You tend to see this from very competitive players. And yes, losing sucks really bad. Winning is like a high, so people can get into it hardcore. OTB chess bickering is HI-larious though....
Hey djones559. I have lots of fun, get to know people, chat, blog, etc. but playing chess is exquisite, smart, and brutal competition man. As for the fair play you expect I always says 'gg' at the end of a game, although on the rare occasions I brutally lose a game then I just leave the room ---rarely, I repeat --- Cheers.
Oh, yeah maybe he ran into some jerks. There's always jerks (unfortunately). I knew a guy who would put a sticky note on his screen over the chat area just to avoid potential nastiness (this not on chess.com, here you can disable chat).
Fortunately (agreeing with cabadenwurt here) the rude people are outnumbered by the nice ones, just keep playing. Some avoid gg because they're avoiding all chatting (like my friend I mentioned). I wouldn't take it personally if your opponent seems to be a mute.
discoweasel wrote:
It really isn't that cutthroat. Chess is like washing your spouse's soiled underwear. Sure, you don't want to do it and it seems repulsive to the thought of being amorous, but if you do not do it, your spouse will have dirty underwear and there will be no love-time later. Regardless of the competitive nature of your opponents in chess or washing underwear, it is a fact of life and you must keep plugging along. If you fail to do so, there will be no sex and with no sex is no procreation and the end of human civilization. I hope that helps.
Nice! I'm glad you brought that all together!
naturalproduct wrote:
discoweasel wrote:
It really isn't that cutthroat. Chess is like washing your spouse's soiled underwear. Sure, you don't want to do it and it seems repulsive to the thought of being amorous, but if you do not do it, your spouse will have dirty underwear and there will be no love-time later. Regardless of the competitive nature of your opponents in chess or washing underwear, it is a fact of life and you must keep plugging along. If you fail to do so, there will be no sex and with no sex is no procreation and the end of human civilization. I hope that helps.
Nice! I'm glad you brought that all together!
+1
I agree with wafflle..... the vast majority of people here are nice... there are only a few Ive met that seem to be bent on insulting others and Ive been here since 2008.
"I mean, come on."
Hey y'all. When I was reading the first post I was thinking"yeah, he's right" and in the midst of all the sad mental violin music I was hearing I wiped my misty, teary eyes and read the second post. I busted out laughing and immediately all the feel good "hey bro, can't we all just get along"
Lets see "can't we all just get along", Nah ! Rodney king rants(he got 9 million and he didn't send any my way)----don't move me . Where in the history of mankind did people get along? As for the "washing the under-wear analogy",No i'm not going for that one either. I rely on my 70 year old good looks and bedroom eyes (ha ha). My thoughts.We have something in common that we enjoy and and as chess nuts we have only each other to understand what we are talking about. Sometimes good, sometimes not so good........Have a great new year!
Unlike the 70's and early 80's, when the social network was limited to a telephone and maybe a CB radio, people are now less interested in making friends. Even Facebook is fizzeling out now and is only used as a tool to gossip and pry into others business. It's not friendly anymore.
Chess is a personal game in a quiet aptmosphere between two people sitting at a table. You won't find that online.
Crazychessplaya wrote:
You are pushing your luck, little man.
Did he ask for bread again?!?
Come back one year!
Sorry, I didn't finish my comment. After the "hey bro, can't we all jus got along" part it came into proper perspective: in ANYTHING you participate in life there are always going to be different personalities to be exposed to, that's how all of life is. Chess players are no different. But some ofthese posts are fugging funny.
Hey all, I started playing Chess a few months ago and love the game, but I have one complaint: people seem to be overly competitive. Can everyone just try and not take chess so seriously and have more fun. Why cant people say good game to each other even when they lose? We should be happy when we get mated by some beautiful tactic and then encourage our oppenents, not get angry! I mean seriously I hover around 850, that is nothing to be proud of, why get so mad? Why so serious? Do we really love the game, or do we love winning? I think our over competiviness can be damaging to the community and may detract new players from really understanding what chess is all about. Can we all try to have more fun and get along?