RUDE & ARROGANT

@fhwee you played with an animal that happened to be versed in chess. block the creature after the game.

I'm playing with one myself now. He's ranting away non-stop ever since the beginning of the game, in quite incorrigibly third rate expressions...

http://www.chess.com/echess/game.html?id=49927585

Chess is a game of the mind, it requires planning a method of attack in order to secure a king, which means that your opponents state of mind comes into play.

By gloating during play; a player accedes his mental position to you. He gives away that state of mind that gives you an edge. He may think he has an edge, even if he does have an edge that doesn't mean he has won.

A player has not won until the enemy king stands in check mate, if a person is gloating, they may think the game is over before it is. They may also be trying to invoke a second mind game above the initial mind game of chess. Distracting your focus from beating him towards thinking of comebacks to his remarks.

To illustrate my point I will use one of my more experimental games.

During a ranked match against  j___miah I was probing for a possible check mate strategy against an opponent who was capable of countering whilst putting me at a disadvantage, literally tearing into me until I had very little left on the board.

At this stage in the game I thought I was done for.

So what could I do to recover this dire scenario.
I was 17 points down against his 4 points of damage.

Just a queen, two rooks and 3 pawns were all that stood in the way of a loss.

A lot of people in that position might be inclined to resign but I was focused on trying to win with a risky strategy and here is how it played out.

I must admit I wasn't playing well at all, I blunder often and the win was mostly down to the other player not spotting the obvious but a win is a win.

If he had been more focused on the threat at his back he might have won, if he had spotted the fork on the queen he would have won.

In short, don't let them shake you, you never know what you might get away with.

People need to relax. If as an officer I wanted to arrest everyone who said a rude word to me while I was attempting to do my job the jails would be overflowing even more then they are now :)

So disable the chat, and he can't agitate you.

Hahaha I make a habit of talking this way.. it gets in their heads and makes the game more competitive and funny. It's better if you hate each other and are out for blood.

When I hear people saying something along the lines of: it's better if you''re out for blood over a game, I occasionally wonder if the speaker has ever seen a body in the streets. 

I have encountered a few mildly annoying folks on chess.com, mostly in live chess.  Annoying chat and repeated draw requests when hopelessly losing.  As if winning by such tactics would be at all satisfying.  However, I have to say that such behavior is much more rare than other online communities with which I have been involved.  Of course such behavior cannot be completely eliminated as it must occur before it can be stopped.  The chess.com community is one of the most respectful and pleasant I have experienced.  The staff appears to do a great job in monitoring this activity.

That's a real "cop out" if I ever saw one and a poor job of telling others how to police a problem. Turning a blind eye to people doing you wrong isn't always the answer. If you don't put up a fight, most of them will walk all over you. I am sure as an officer, what has came out of peoples mouth have meant the difference in them getting off with a warning or jail.

This problem in some respects is easier to police. It is an obvious attempt to gain an unfair advantage over an opponent as well as generally being disrepectful. They can be banned or in some way reprimanded for what they have done. It isn't exactly always our word against theirs. Here we have tangible proof.

The jails here at Chess.com aren't over flowing with drug dealers and murders.

aaaaaannnnnnttttttt..........wrong answer, next contestant please........

I am ok with two guys who want to call their momma names while they play, but not everyone here is into that....trash talking can definitely add to the drama for an audience or make it feel more rewarding when you do show your friends up after they talk smack....I don't agree with making enemies out of most people I play, to feel like its a real competition. Lets be realistic everyone, would you do this without bias to everyone whom you played with in person that you had never met before? You might do it to the guy who looks like he only lifts a few sheets of paper everyday, or with whom you are certain you could get by with this. However, if you realized the guy across the table was a thai chi master, a police officer, someone fresh out of the military, or a big muscular construction worker, something tells me you would refrain. This shows me you have the bias of a bully. I hate bullies and bullying. I break the faces of bullies.

 I have a few friends on chess.com with whom I trade some banter, sometimes boardering on trash talking, but only in good humor and only after enough chatting to build a relationship of good natured jabs.  My dad used to say "you can say anything you want as long as you have a smile on your face".  Unfortunately, words can't smile.  But a few well placed  or :) can help keep it light.

chess.com is also the intersection of different cultures.  Humor in one culture is rude in another.  Particularly when most on chess.com communicate in English while English is not the native language for many.

Always good to give people the benefit of the doubt when possible.  With our flag next to our names we become ambassadors of our  countries on this site and our behavior here reflects on the culture of our country.

nameno1had:

Im so glad that you are right and everyone else is wrong! .......wrong answer, next contestant please........

However, if you realized the guy across the table was a thai chi master, a police officer, someone fresh out of the military, or a big muscular construction workerI hate bullies and bullying. I break the faces of bullies.

this is great- is thai chi some kind of thai food? and it sounds like you are hanging out with the new village people. Also if you are right and everyone else is wrong and your gonna break a person's face for being a bully does that make you a bully or perhaps you are the champion of truth and justice.  im just glad your not afraid to tell people thier opinions are wrong and not afraid to break a bully's face- truely noble

again i thank you for your entertaining posts

If someone does that, click "disable chat" in the chat box and block the member

why all the quotes :)

When "players" start smack talking, it just makes me more determined to beat them. It's all the more gratifying to know that you've taken away their primary weapon when you disable chat.

I'm a master of the Chinese martial art of Kung Pao.

You should really get a better secretary for those typos.

many thanks for telling me what i should do! helpful and condescending! double whammy ! but hey please dont kick my teeth out- as you said "I tend to remind anyone who talks trash to me from behind their computer, that they wouldn't do that to me in a chess club, coffe house or tournament hall.If so, they would atleast be visiting a dentist soon"- truly frightening

and for prawn i think its called Kong Pow and was developed by King Kong and the pow is self explanatory( joke intended because i don't really take myself that seriously)

Wait a sec. prawneatsprawn-

now i get it you were talking about Kung pao - the ancient culinary art of self defence that was developed by General Gau  and includes the dreaded dim sum mak.

Hey, I was only returning the favor and besides, if you actually pull it off, at least she might be better to look at..... lol

Be afraid. Be very afraid.

I'm glad you break the faces of bullies. I believe that violence can be a good solution sometimes, if words and reason first fail, and if you can't just walk away for some reason.

If only everyone agreed and would stand up for themselves, the world would be a better place. The greatest places in the world are free because, people took what was stolen, by force. If this isn't the greatest lesson to a bully, I am not sure what is. I guess it would be fair to say, they think they only live in their world and they in for a rude awaking someday. Getting your @$$ beat by someone when you think they are a chump is humiliating, but when you get what could be worse, like more calculated revenge or if you are horrible, prison, it will fix any bully to a degree, unless they aren't reformable. I doubt anyone here is that bad.