Thank God someone has raised this issue at last!
It comes up frequently. Turning off chat is the best option unless they're particularly abusive, in which case capture it and report them. There are idiots everywhere... Beat them, and then when they ask for a rematch, reject it, then make an invite with an unrated game and send it.
Today a guy trashed talked me and told me to hug a teddy bear.
Did you hug the bear ?
I trash talk during live games. Nothing terrible, just a bit of teasing and trying to get into my opponent's head. For example, early on in the game I might start with: "you already know I'm going to win, right bro?". I know it's not for everyone, but I just feel like it adds to the intrigue of the game and raises the stakes a bit. Often a player will keep re-matching me until they get a win. I like that they're fired up and want to beat me so bad.
Hypothesis: "the lower rated the player, the more likely they are to trash talk."
very true
I trash talk during live games. Nothing terrible, just a bit of teasing and trying to get into my opponent's head. For example, early on in the game I might start with: "you already know I'm going to win, right bro?". I know it's not for everyone, but I just feel like it adds to the intrigue of the game and raises the stakes a bit. Often a player will keep re-matching me until they get a win. I like that they're fired up and want to beat me so bad.
A friendly advice. Do you think that's a good way for you to improve your game? if you use "psychological" tactics outside of the board... sure, you might win some extra points here and there. But you know that your level is not going to go up, because you are stressing out your opponent and making them play worse. So what do you get? points? you'll lose them back when you play to others with disabled chat or who give zero f***s. So you are basically wasting your time.
In my opinion, teasing is always bad chess etiquette and it shows immaturity. Count the number of 2000+ players who tease. They don't need to.
Someone sent me an eggplant emoji at the beginning of the game today. Is that trash talk, harassment, idiocy or everything at once?
Someone sent me an eggplant emoji at the beginning of the game today. Is that trash talk, harassment, idiocy or everything at once?
that's funny
A friendly advice. Do you think that's a good way for you to improve your game? if you use "psychological" tactics outside of the board... sure, you might win some extra points here and there. But you know that your level is not going to go up, because you are stressing out your opponent and making them play worse. So what do you get? points? you'll lose them back when you play to others with disabled chat or who give zero f***s. So you are basically wasting your time.
In my opinion, teasing is always bad chess etiquette and it shows immaturity. Count the number of 2000+ players who tease. They don't need to.
I appreciate your post. However, I don't do it 'strategically' to win more points or anything like that at all. I'm just trying to have fun and I think this extra psychological dimension makes the game more interesting. I don't tease / trash talk to make them play worse; actually, often they play better because they try harder to beat me. I'm not trying to improve my game. I just have a bit of fun and often make peace with the opponent at the end.
Hypothesis: "the lower rated the player, the more likely they are to trash talk."
I totally agree. Also the more OVER rated. Such as very proud of somewhat high bullet rating. But almost no record of playing thoughtful chess. And if you manage to get them into a slower game you find they relly arent very good at it. Until then thier mouth would make u think they were Capablanca.
"Chess speaks for itself."
So, is it just me or there are way too many trash talkers on this site when you have "chat" option enabled in your game? I'm not talking about friendly banner, but lots of high-school level "you suck as a player, etc" comments right after they win the game. This is one of the many reasons I don't like to have "chat" enabled, but my point is I shouldn't have to disable it either just because we have so many immature players on this site. This is a real problem that needs to be addressed.
if you cant take the heat get out the kitchen
I haven't encountered trash talking but until recently I had a girly user name which I changed (and turned off chat) because I would occasionally get questions in the chat about what I was wearing and whether I have an Instagram account. Maybe that was just a way to distract me from the game but I found it cringey just the same! Turning off chat fixed that and changing my user name put an end to the random friend requests 
I don't care about trash talking since I pay zero attention to the chat. I play mobile and the chat box is off my screen at the bottom, so I have to scroll down to see it. Guess I ought to start looking, sounds like I might be missing out on some high entertainment.
Hypothesis: "the lower rated the player, the more likely they are to trash talk."
thats an axiom
Trash talking is trashy.
"..who cares if a guy trash talks if it really hits you hard then you have insercutiy issues, it should be equivalent to being called a pussy by some drunken hobo who obvious has done nothign with his life: "am i really a pussy? omg i am? this homeless man knows my life so well"
"You're not wrong Walter, you're just... an A**HOLE" -Big Lebowski