Why???

Just because she posted the comment does not mean she had to vent , it just means she did not like it and said something about it !! no one needs to be rude on line . I think she did the right thing ... Keep it up .

Slow learners. 

The line between that and "venting" seems an awfully thin one to me...

In any event, instead of posting a comment here, she should have reported the troublesome behavior to one of the mods (that would have dealt with the problem directly and at its source).

I'm not sure where you have been playing...but in my experience it has always been an element of the game.

Thanks to all of you for reading my post and commenting.  This did occur in live chess and while I was still very new to the personalities and nuances of the players.  I spend most of my time in regular challenges and have met so many nice players who play to win, but also are friendly and playing to enjoy the game.  Some of my new friends have been kind enough to post agreements in my defense.

Pozdrav.

Well, i am not good player either, but really like playing(after 20 years) and so very very glad that here are also no-professional-hardcore players(that "waste"their time on me).

Glad to play with you again. :o)

Hi Phoenix6, I know it can upset you when people make nasty comments because I've had it done to me, you do right to turn the chat off and not respond, it's only ever happened to me in live games though, just remember that EVERYONE makes mistakes even GM's and you are only a beginer, keep up the good chess.

I find it neither sad nor unfortunate the OP had this experience, everyone does, it is just a part of the game. At least online you can disable the chat and ignore them, not so easy at a 'bricks and mortar' chess club. Sometimes it's not malicious, when I was playing as a teenager my friends and I trash talked each other constantly, nobody was offended. The first time I went to the Mechanic's Institute one of the regulars, who was an obnoxious jerk, cornered me for a game. I couldn't turn off his chat, just had to endure it. Later we were paired on a Tuesday Marathon game where he couldn't flap his jaws. My sweet revenge was crushing him. But with the bad comes the good. I have made friends with people through chess. So I'd suggest to just take it all in stride.

@catnapper: You give good advice in saying to take it all in stride and not get bent out of shape by opponents' abuse. However, I earnestly disagree that the experience was "neither sad nor unfortunate." Such abuse happens in all places and at all levels, but that does not make it acceptable.

Your examples were not apt. Your friends may have talked trash, but those were your friends, and not Internet strangers.

@ whirlwind2011: I didn't mean to imply it was acceptable, if it were a rare occurrence then perhaps I'd agree that it is "sad and unfortunate", but it is very common, especially with lower ranked players. My theory on that is that it is mostly kids who engage in it and they will hopefully mature out of such behaviour. As for my example, it was a directed at an earlier post where the poster stated trash talk has no place in chess, that it isn't always malicious. It can be fine among friends, but if it is from a stranger, whether Internet or not (as in my other example) the best thing to do is ignore it. Reporting it just burdens staff with something that is so easy to fix with disabling the chat.

@ smellslikestinks I am truly sorry that you take posts in forums so seriously. It seems the fact I quoted you in this thread drove you to make what could be construed as a snarky remark in one of my threads that was long dead and buried. Funny you call me whiney when I was complaining about something I had no control over, yet you are friendly to the OP here who had complete control over what she was complaining about. I'm happy to say my thread resulted in some action, kohai removed all the offenders comments and has been banned from commenting for three months now. Anyway, I don't feel checkmated, how about I just apologise for stepping on your toes and offer you a draw?

   I had a similar trajectory on chess.com - I hadn't played much chess before joining and my score fell to about 800 before I started learning and playing better.   I ran into that kind of behavior a lot more when playing lower rated players - I've only once run into a higher rated player who resorted to taunting - it was in a tournament and based on things he said on the tournament forum, my impression was that he had some mental/psychological issues - but that's another issue.   Anyway, just keep playing and improving and you'll notice your opponents have better manners as you move up :-)

Well, everybody in the world needs somebody who understands.

Some people are apparently born with SFB syndrome, I suggest you leave chat on until your opponent demonstrates this trait and then turn chat off. Until then you might meet some interesting and/or nice players, like me for instance I'm the nicest guy I know (sic) not to mention the most modest.

And I'd report the SFB members to the staff here, you have nothing to lose and I presume those with multiple complaints get warned and eventually kicked out if they don't lighten up.

some players modify the time during the game,  or i win but I don't get my points

what should I say ?

This doesn't seem to quite pertain to the topic. Nevertheless, players cannot modify their own time during games. If you see someone's time go up upon making a move, they are receiving bonus time. This is a time control system known as Fischer Time. For example, "5/3" means that each player has five minutes to play the whole game, and each player receives three seconds' bonus time for every move made. Under this type of time control, you will see your time go up by the same increment as you make your moves, as well, and not just that of your opponent.

As for not receiving any points for winning a game, this could happen for a number of reasons. Make the sure the game(s) in question are not unrated.

ok thanks

Geez, kick a guy for reaching out to the chess community.

What I can't stand is the people who can dish it out, but start taking it personally when you give it back.

Actually it was a woman, and a grandmother to boot. Shame on you AndyClifton kicking on Grandma! Shame, shame, shame.