Advice

Okay, so here's the story.

I've been seeing this guy on and off for a while. Last night we hooked up for the first time and he is ignoring me now. I feel very very used. How can I move on?

Every person expects specific things from their partner.. You looked for love and affection, but he didn't. It's shame on him that if he hid his intentions..

A little disappointment and getting cheated raises one to the position of God.. He, on the other hand, will be punished by karma..

In any case you have not lost anything real.. You can be glad that you have something magical to which people are so much attracted to..

You will easily get a new friend/partner who wants your love and affection just like the way you do..

Hold on. 

You "hooked up" for the first time last night.

Do you realize this is only 1 day ago?

Guys need space.  They are not usually 24-hour I-have-to-be-by-your-side or on-the-phone types.

Secondly, you act as though you were in a relationship.  Did this subject ever come up?  Maybe he thinks you're in a relationship or you're a friend.  You need to clarify this.

Third, you're young.  From your comment, it sounds like you are both disappointed and insecure.  The best relationships involve time together and independent time, for example, you each have your own hobbies.  You don't get anxious or worried when the other person is busy. 

Finally, a good relationship is built on maturity and trust.  That means choosing wisely.  Is the guy you like a mature type of guy or still acting like a kid or a mama's boy?  Are you too clingy and scaring him away with your high maintenance attitude?

In closing, quit worrying.  If he doesn't answer the phone or your message app, drive over to his place and discuss how you felt ignored.  His answer might be blunt.  Or he might apologize.  But make it an adult discussion because his reactions will tell you if he is an inconsiderate conceited jerk or a thoughtful caring person. 

Whatever is the case, don't let yourself be mistreated.  Be careful who you decide to like and be friends with before you enter into a more solid relationship.  Abusers, in particular, act all sweet and nice until they have you in a relationship.  Google "passive agressive boyfriend" or "aspergers syndrome spouse" or "narcist spouse" and you can see what some types of personality or other issues can do to a relationship.  Sometimes, when guys leave a relationship without actually breaking it off, it can be a blessing. 

One final tip:  A good place to meet nice guys is a fitness gym.  Guys who take the time to lift weights usually enjoy a healthy lifestyle and that includes a healthy attitude towards life, which includes the people in their life.  Or join a martial arts club.  That's how I met my significant other 20 years ago

Wait wait wait....where do you live and how did you hook up? Because you know your profile shows that you live in United States and we are having lockdown and if you live here how the hell did you get past those dozen policemen every ten blocks?

And my advise: Sit on the couch and watch tv the whole day. And maybe drink iced tea or something......thats what I do....

And name that cat "Muffin"

Nope.....there is already one nylonsock so it should be "Muffin"