How do I get rid of my empathy?
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#3
I don't think there's a problem at all with your attitude towards people. It's great that you are willing to forgive, so many people never forgive over the slightest wrongs. What I might suggest it to be a bit stronger with your feelings, to not let people take advantage of you, or to not let your feelings be toyed with.
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#4
Great question! It’s not as easy as some people think, so I’ll give you the basic rundown. You can’t immediately get rid of your empathy, it’s not that simple. The way to do it is to slowly get rid of all your empathy. The first thing you need to do is find something you think is bad, the less bad, the easier. Then, find only logic that supports why that thing is actually good/fine. Allow yourself to overlook it, accept it, embrace it. Now your empathy has been weakened, keep this up until your conscience is gone!
Have you considered lobotomy?
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#6
It seems like in your specific case you want to be a more self-serving person. To do this, indulge yourself in all the things life has to offer, then, take advantage of people. Soon enough you’ll be a self-serving machine (and rich)
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#7
Surround yourself with people who trust you, true friends who are there for you, and people who won't manipulate and control you. If someone is being mean to you, I would encourage you to forgive them, but then break off contact and stay away from them. It is better to forgive than to get revenge, but don't put yourself into a position where you have to forgive the same person over and over again.
16 hrs ago
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#8
#7, that doesn’t help answer the question actually. That is bad advice, that only will make empathy stronger >:(
16 hrs ago
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#10
theeldest1 wrote:
Surround yourself with people who trust you, true friends who are there for you, and people who won't manipulate and control you. If someone is being mean to you, I would encourage you to forgive them, but then break off contact and stay away from them. It is better to forgive than to get revenge, but don't put yourself into a position where you have to forgive the same person over and over again.
Thanks! It’s just very difficult when I see someone else get away with stuff. There was one time where someone was doing things to me for around a year, and I tripped up on the revenge plan. That’s kinda what started this entire thing, lol.
16 hrs ago
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#11
#8, I'd rather teach people to have good friends and to get rid of the bad ones, as opposed to reject forgiveness entirely.
16 hrs ago
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#12
Another piece of advice! RUIN somebody. Pick somebody who has done something to offend or worsen your life in the slightest and seek pure revenge, do whatever it takes to make their life awful, to better them, to best them. Then, you can learn revenge, don’t allow yourself to have friends or family or love. Only have revenge, that will be your joy of the world.
16 hrs ago
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#14
Abtectous wrote:
Another piece of advice! RUIN somebody. Pick somebody who has done something to offend or worsen your life in the slightest and seek pure revenge, do whatever it takes to make their life awful, to better them, to best them. Then, you can learn revenge, don’t allow yourself to have friends or family or love. Only have revenge, that will be your joy of the world.
That’s what I’ve been wanting to do, and it doesn’t work. I always trip up one way or another.
16 hrs ago
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#15
#10, It is tough to see people get away with things. But from my (limited) experience, you can't change the past, only the future. I'm sorry you were antagonized for a whole year, that sounds awful :(
16 hrs ago
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#16
theeldest1 wrote:
#10, It is tough to see people get away with things. But from my (limited) experience, you can't change the past, only the future. I'm sorry you were antagonized for a whole year, that sounds awful :(
Yeah, and while I did technically get my revenge, I tripped up so much that I don’t feel like I can properly enjoy my reward for a year of this.
16 hrs ago
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#17
#14 Revenge may feel good at the time, but years later you'll feel ashamed for it. :(
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#18
theeldest1 wrote:
I don't think there's a problem at all with your attitude towards people. It's great that you are willing to forgive, so many people never forgive over the slightest wrongs. What I might suggest it to be a bit stronger with your feelings, to not let people take advantage of you, or to not let your feelings be toyed with.
And just to clarify, I don’t forgive. I absolutely hold grudges. I actually hold them very well. I just don’t act on them, so I’m left with this bottled-up rage that I can never let out, and it just keeps growing every day.
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#19
Empathy isn't something to get rid of. In my opinion, it's part of what makes us human. Again, in my opinion, what's important is being able to show empathy towards certain people. Be nice, but not to a fault. If someone pushes you, try to stand up. It doesn't help to have friends, too. I have a few who give absolutely no [words], and they've taught me a lot about standing up for yourself.
I feel like I can be emotionally beaten down and manipulated, and still instinctually just drop the whole thing and forgive people, and it’s honestly horrible, because I want to see justice done, but can’t bring myself to actually do it. I’ve had two times so far where people have wronged me and I have had the chance for a glorious revenge, but I didn’t take it out of sheer empathy and kindness, and I want to make sure I never have to live with the regret of that mistake again. I’m not an empath by any means, just a really easy pushover, and the fact that my own kindness stops me from getting satisfaction on those who have wronged me genuinely makes me want to get rid of it. I’m done with being a pushover that anyone can hurt and always get away with it. But despite my best efforts, I can’t find a way. Does anyone know how I can silence my emotions and how I can get over (or fix) the regret I already live with? Because I’m sure those regrets can be fixed somehow.