How do you deal with dry texters?
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My gf is the dryest texter…
Always try your best to be a wet texter and continue conversations. You can meet some great people that way.
That's when you ignore them and let them find their own way.
That's my favorite song, lmao.
I’ve been trying to figure out different ways to avoid these kind of dry convos by using discord (yes discord) and I’ve got some strategies when meeting new people to help them open up instead of being dry. But first why have to understand why people are dry in the first place. If they sent the first text it means they want to talk but they just need help opening up. If you sent them a text, then it means they don’t wan to talk because you’re annoying and you need to shut up (jk ❤️) Dry texters are like this mostly because they don’t know where to take a conversation either because they have zero social ability, or because they nervous, or they simply don’t want to talk. (As mentioned above) to help prevent the first two scenarios you could try spicing things up with a unique question, which is what I have been doing in discord. Using this thing called a userphone, I have been able to talk to many random strangers and try out different ways to start interesting conversations. One way you could do this is by asking an interesting question which is usually unique and slightly controversial (but in a way that it doesn’t really matter) For example my personal favorite is asking them wether or not they think plants can feel. However, I suggest you try your own questions, and figure out where to go from those questions rather than just using mine because you don’t know how to continue on from there, leading to weird pauses. The next way you could enhance the conversation is by telling a joke. Now, I understand it can be pretty hard to do while online, but I’ve come up with my own that seems to work pretty well; I’ll first ask them what they are doing, and when they inevitably ask what I’m doing, I say “I’m actually driving right now” this is good because it is both believable but also kinda surprising. I let them question my actions for a bit and I play along before I give it up and explain I’m playing a racing game. Similar to the other thing, you want to make your own joke that way you can actually connect instead of reading off a cheat sheet. The final way you can create a nexus with your new future friend is by simply complementing something about them that you notice. That’s it. Efficient , effective and simple to do. Nope, just kidding, nothing is that easy. You need to find something about them that stood out to you, or that they feel insecure about. Not only this, but you also need to be genuine in your compliment that way it doesn’t come off as weird or creepy. Again, this is very difficult to do while online, but one way I figured you could do this, is by complementing their username (if it’s interesting) or their profile picture (if it’s similar to yours or something you have an interest in) this is a good conversation starter and you can even ask them what inspired them to have that as I what it is. Another thing you could give interest in is their status, as this is what they currently feel like, so this could help you have a conversation with what is happening right now in their life. In the end, you just need to develop your own strategies, to personalize how you want a conversation to go based on your personality and your interests. After all, the best way to have a good conversation and build a good relationship is to just be yourself. Have a merry Christmas to you all, and I hope my tiny explanation helps you all become better versions of yourselves for this new year
(For those of you that it cuts off for)
The next way you could enhance the conversation is by telling a joke. Now, I understand it can be pretty hard to do while online, but I’ve come up with my own that seems to work pretty well; I’ll first ask them what they are doing, and when they inevitably ask what I’m doing, I say “I’m actually driving right now” this is good because it is both believable but also kinda surprising. I let them question my actions for a bit and I play along before I give it up and explain I’m playing a racing game. Similar to the other thing, you want to make your own joke that way you can actually connect instead of reading off a cheat sheet. The final way you can create a nexus with your new future friend is by simply complementing something about them that you notice. That’s it. Efficient , effective and simple to do. Nope, just kidding, nothing is that easy. You need to find something about them that stood out to you, or that they feel insecure about. Not only this, but you also need to be genuine in your compliment that way it doesn’t come off as weird or creepy. Again, this is very difficult to do while online, but one way I figured you could do this, is by complementing their username (if it’s interesting) or their profile picture (if it’s similar to yours or something you have an interest in) this is a good conversation starter and you can even ask them what inspired them to have that as I what it is. Another thing you could give interest in is their status, as this is what they currently feel like, so this could help you have a conversation with what is happening right now in their life. In the end, you just need to develop your own strategies, to personalize how you want a conversation to go based on your personality and your interests. After all, the best way to have a good conversation and build a good relationship is to just be yourself. Have a merry Christmas to you all, and I hope my tiny explanation helps you all become better versions of yourselves for this new year
The next way you could enhance the conversation is by telling a joke. Now, I understand it can be pretty hard to do while online, but I’ve come up with my own that seems to work pretty well; I’ll first ask them what they are doing, and when they inevitably ask what I’m doing, I say “I’m actually driving right now” this is good because it is both believable but also kinda surprising. I let them question my actions for a bit and I play along before I give it up and explain I’m playing a racing game. Similar to the other thing, you want to make your own joke that way you can actually connect instead of reading off a cheat sheet. The final way you can create a nexus with your new future friend is by simply complementing something about them that you notice. That’s it. Efficient , effective and simple to do. Nope, just kidding, nothing is that easy. You need to find something about them that stood out to you, or that they feel insecure about. Not only this, but you also need to be genuine in your compliment that way it doesn’t come off as weird or creepy. Again, this is very difficult to do while online, but one way I figured you could do this, is by complementing their username (if it’s interesting) or their profile picture (if it’s similar to yours or something you have an interest in) this is a good conversation starter and you can even ask them what inspired them to have that as I what it is. Another thing you could give interest in is their status, as this is what they currently feel like, so this could help you have a conversation with what is happening right now in their life. In the end, you just need to develop your own strategies, to personalize how you want a conversation to go based on your personality and your interests. After all, the best way to have a good conversation and build a good relationship is to just be yourself. Have a merry Christmas to you all, and I hope my tiny explanation helps you all become better versions of yourselves for this new year
(Part 3 lol, this is pretty long for a comment)
Another thing you could give interest in is their status, as this is what they currently feel like, so this could help you have a conversation with what is happening right now in their life. In the end, you just need to develop your own strategies, to personalize how you want a conversation to go based on your personality and your interests. After all, the best way to have a good conversation and build a good relationship is to just be yourself. Have a merry Christmas to you all, and I hope my tiny explanation helps you all become better versions of yourselves for this new year
Another thing you could give interest in is their status, as this is what they currently feel like, so this could help you have a conversation with what is happening right now in their life. In the end, you just need to develop your own strategies, to personalize how you want a conversation to go based on your personality and your interests. After all, the best way to have a good conversation and build a good relationship is to just be yourself. Have a merry Christmas to you all, and I hope my tiny explanation helps you all become better versions of yourselves for this new year
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You are correct that they want to talk to you if they message you first but are shy or possibly don't know what to say. Like you said, they might lack basix conversational skills and need a bit of help opening up.
Interesting questions could be a good way to start a conversation. I think I've found that I need to ask more interesting questions instead of the "How are you" and "What are you up to today"s and ask more insightful questions that could further start a discussion and not walk into such lame and dry answers. It does make sense that you could receive a better response with an interesting question.
Telling a joke? I'm not so sure about that, lmao. I think there are moments where you have to let your humor shine, but I'm not the type of person to tell a joke. I see how it could be easier to build off of it, but I think that's harder for someone like me.
Compliments are always great, but for me can be hard to calmly add to a conversation. They're the easiest way to learn about someone, though, and to let them show you who they are more.
It's always hard to start a friendship from scratch like that with someone who's dry. But you've given some great advice! Thank you, and merry Christmas!
Maybe you just need to find a joke that you like, or something that works well into the conversation, like my example. Besides, how hard could it be? You already have the quick wits!
I do agree that compliments can be sorta difficult, which is why I normally lead with it, instead of add in to the conversation with it.
I do agree that compliments can be sorta difficult, which is why I normally lead with it, instead of add in to the conversation with it.
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