Believe half of what you see, son, and none of what you hear.
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exnos wrote:
Sleeping beauty that sounds a bit selfish, making it better for yourself, what about the person who is sharing your life.
Selfish??????? It is no one elses responsibility to make us happy. That is our responsibility. Happiness comes from within. To expect THAT from someone else is what is selfish, my friend.
Mar 2, 2017
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#24
A friend on here didn't think I needed his input as there were already contributors but I think his two observations are valid.
'Do not expect to find happiness in great things. Enjoy the small, simple things you can find every day in life.
If you know you're doing right, don't worry about what other people might think of you'.
'Do not expect to find happiness in great things. Enjoy the small, simple things you can find every day in life.
If you know you're doing right, don't worry about what other people might think of you'.
If you are happy and your partner is sad/depressed. You can cheer them up temporarily, sure, but if they are a negative person who's personality is to complain and be unhappy nothing you will do can change that and the relationship will suffer because there is not give and take.
There would only be one person always trying to cheer the other up and do the emotional work necessary to maintain it. If both people are even tempered then yes, to maintain the relationship there has to be give and take but that i not what i was referring to.
Mar 7, 2017
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#26
You put that so well, SB.
I think that part of the route to achieve happiness is self-acceptance, that it's not predicated on external factors, that it's an internal state. An acknowledgment of not just what we view as the positive aspects of our character, but also recognising and accepting our weaknesses.
I think that part of the route to achieve happiness is self-acceptance, that it's not predicated on external factors, that it's an internal state. An acknowledgment of not just what we view as the positive aspects of our character, but also recognising and accepting our weaknesses.
Very well put LJ.
Ditto...
on the whole this was a great thread with a lot of sage advice. Ty
I often think that in the forums; the challenge is to be comfortable with yourself- comfortable sharing your thoughts. being able to confidently and comfortably talk to people is a big life lesson for me and something that doesn't come easily.
in fact, I really think that this is why I post on the boards.
Mar 7, 2017
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#31
Thank you, Jay. I do appreciate very much your and everyone else's input on here.
Mar 30, 2017
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#33
I just did...However I read this book " The Conspiracy against the Human Race" by Thomas Ligotti, It's not for the depressive ones though....
Mar 30, 2017
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#34
Hi Eric. Nice to see you here 😃
I guess it's difficult to describe briefly the main conclusions?
Mar 30, 2017
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#35
I've learned "righty tighty, lefty loosey". When tightening or loosening things!
The point of sharing your life with someone is not so that they can make it better but so they can keep you company while you make it better yourself