thoughts on good/bad, + apologies and forgiveness

What are you guys' thoughts on forgiveness and apologies? There are no right or wrong answers here; everyone is different, obviously, and this is just a forum to share your input. Sorry if this cuts off on the app, you can read it on web, and if you say "I'm not reading all that", then I guess you can say "thank u, next" because this post might not be for you.

What do you do if a person gets mad at you if you did nothing? Will you apologize because you don't want to fight with them? Or will you remain stubborn even if it leads to a lot of trouble, because you want things to be fair? Is it sometimes better to apologize to make peace even if it's unfair?

How long does it take for you to forgive someone when they apologize? Do you ever forgive them? Will you forgive them anyway, even if they don't apologize?

What if it's impersonal? Say you met somebody who was violent to many people (none of which you know). Would you be able to immediately forgive them for their past actions? Or would you ever? What if the person hurt a loved one? What if it's not physical, but verbal? Does that make a difference for you?

What if you and another person both did something wrong? Who should apologize first? Do you weigh both of the things you've done? If so, how? Will you ignore each other?

On another note, how do you know who's in the right and who's in the wrong sometimes? It's confusing: what's good and what's bad? Now there are some things that are obviously bad, e.g. being physically violent towards someone. But then there are smaller things; they may not seem nice, but could they be good? Is it wrong to say something bad about another person to stand up for yourself when they are attacking you? Is lying to someone to be nice a good thing or a bad thing? Imo, lying to young children occasionally about a drawing they made or something can't hurt. But once they get older that could make them be more egotistical and less considerate of others, since they might put themselves above others thinking that they're perfect and better than everybody. Sure, a person can be perfect, but that's taking into consideration that all humans are imperfect. You have to realize that the imperfections would make someone more perfect, but lying to someone like that would make them condescending towards others and thinking that they're flawless, a different kind of perfect.

Another thing. If your friends have picked someone's side over yours, does that mean that the other is likely in the right? Or are they mistaken?

Please share your thoughts in the comments, I'm interested to hear.

My thoughts are why are you not replying to me

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#2. Sorry, I was writing this and didn't see lol.

Anyway good questions, what are your thoughts on them?

For me, it's very hard to forgive, especially if they have not apologized. I want a more genuine apology, and my standards are usually higher than they should be. And usually, on impersonal topics, no matter what, I usually judge a book by it's cover or by what others have told me. That's something I'm working on.

#5. It depends a lot on the situation for me. But usually if the offense isn't too serious I can quickly forgive someone for something. I'm a pretty forgiving person, I'd say, and there aren't really too many people I dislike. I also apologize a lot for no reason.

Thanks for you guys' input. :>

#10. Lol-

Often I'll need to think about it for a bit. Sometimes I'll tell them that I need space, or that I don't really want to talk to them but I hope we can remain peaceful.

Yeah me too but I find it hard to apologize to insensitive people cuz they just take advantage of me

Sometimes I just get frustrated because people can't understand my point of view, and that's when I don't apologize. When they refuse to even take a glance at things from my perspective.

Yeah ideally you forgive everyone and move on but it's easier said than done in extreme situations

hmmm