social interactions

This might sound silly at first. What are you guys' opinions on talking? Conversation? I'll explain a bit.

First, what are your opinions on shyness? I've heard before that people often get shyer as they get older and that's definitely true for me, but it might just be because of stuff that's happened in my life that I'm now a shy person irl. But here's the thing, am I really shy irl? Because I can talk a lot with somebody who I've already known for a bit, if I feel like I have something in common with them, or even if I just recently met them, as long as I feel like we have something in common. If I've known someone for a while, I might be shyer around them still for one of the following reasons: 1) I think they hate me and I don't really care about what they think, so I ignore them, 2) I'm scared of them, 3) I feel like even though we didn't just meet, we don't really know each other that well. But here's the thing, I don't think #1 here is actually shyness. Just because someone is quiet doesn't mean they're shy, right? It's perfectly fine to not want to talk to someone, and that doesn't make you shy. But is being shy even a bad thing? Sometimes less shy people can end up saying things they regret whereas a shyer person might not do that, so being shy can have some benefits imo.

Secondly, how do you hold up a conversation with someone you don't really feel a connection with, or just anyone if the conversation is kind of awkward? Is the conversation never awkward when you feel a connection with someone? I doubt that. Anyway, do you have tips for holding up a conversation with a new person/someone you don't know super well when you're shy? How do you keep a conversation going with someone, and also, when do you feel like someone is hunting that they don't want to talk to you? If they do try to imply that, how do you deal with it?

Btw, guys, although I talk to everyone on here and I probably don't seem that shy, I'm very shy irl, or at least I think I am. What does make a shy person? Do you think everyone is a little shy?

Thanks for reading, and I'd love to hear everyone's ideas in the comments.

What?

everyone is a little shy around people they don't know.

What about extroverts

don't know from experience but id think everyone is bc I'm an extrovert and when I perform in front of someone for piano I'm always nervous so idk

Thanks for your input, guys.

no problem honestly i used to be shy too but I've fixed it mostly just believe that they really aren't going to do anything to you

Ok, thanks so much for your input!

I have a friend who's 20 years old and a friend who's 13. We play football together with other people. I like talking with the friend who's 13 because he has the same humour, and it's simply less awkward to talk to him, whereas when I talk with the friend who's 20, it's almost never me who starts the conversation, and it gets real awkward when he calls me to point out an error that I made. I do come out with a new skill or I improve myself, but I don't say a word when he does. But am I shy? No, I just don't feel comfortable talking with someone who won't understand me.

I think being shy is bad

Because shy means you get nervous speaking to people. You can be quiet without being shy

Finding the right conversations can be difficult sometimes. Not everyone opens up easily. I started with a few friends here and now my chat and messages have blown up.

Some connect with others more quickly , it's a matter of how comfortable you are in your company even if they're strangers or people you know . At first , it may seem awkward or upright scary but it can wear down gradually too .

Thanks so much for the input, everyone. I really appreciate it.

just have a conversation over some cheesecake. that's what I did once

Lmaooo.

actually no it was Mac and cheese I think...

Heh, I've never had Mac and cheese. Is it good?

w-w-what? you cant be serious!