I wouldn't do ANYTHING in that situation I'm sorry lol
I feel like she would slap me or something
We all need to be better
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chesssblackbelt wrote:
I wouldn't do ANYTHING in that situation I'm sorry lol
I feel like she would slap me or something
I hear you, man, but that’s a pretty small fear compared to the nightmare she’s going through in that moment. I’d rather take a 'slap' or a weird look and know I tried to help a human being than walk away and leave her to be laughed at by the next hundred people. Strength isn't just physical, it's having the backbone to be misunderstood while you're doing the right thing. And that is what positive masculinity is.
I really respect you for doing that. I would of never done it, just because I have so much anxiety when I talk to people I don't know. Like man it took me time to get myself to go to shops and buy things
The situation you mentioned, the obvious reason people didn't say or do anything is that everyone likely had something to do and wasn't sure what to do or say. Obviously, it isn't an excuse for that many people to walk by her and not say anything, but human interactions with strangers in that particular setting can be awkward, and most people wouldn't want to say or do anything.
What I gathered from this is that women are to be more respected in this society, which is true. There is too much misogyny, sexualizing women, and other factors that can make them feel demeaned, which is what we all have to work on. It is sad that while improvements have been made over time to give women more rights and make them feel more included in the world, there are groups of people that make doing so extremely difficult.
#6 I don't think that's at all what this is about, this is about how nobody stepped up and helped her
BasixWhiteBoy wrote:
The situation you mentioned, the obvious reason people didn't say or do anything is that everyone likely had something to do and wasn't sure what to do or say. Obviously, it isn't an excuse for that many people to walk by her and not say anything, but human interactions with strangers in that particular setting can be awkward, and most people wouldn't want to say or do anything.
What I gathered from this is that women are to be more respected in this society, which is true. There is too much misogyny, sexualizing women, and other factors that can make them feel demeaned, which is what we all have to work on. It is sad that while improvements have been made over time to give women more rights and make them feel more included in the world, there are groups of people that make doing so extremely difficult.
That is very likely true, but the whole interaction didn't even last a full minute. But you are completely right. We all need to respect one another more. People are so caught up looking after themselves that we all forget we are better together.
Dec 20, 2025
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I think maybe this is an English thing not to help strangers sadly
I don't remember the last time I spoke to a stranger lol
Dec 20, 2025
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This is probably really dumb for obvious reasons, but could it be no one brought up her predicament because no one concerned themselves with her predicament; in other words, could it be that the nightmare wasn't addressed because it wasn't a nightmare? What I'm saying is, it's possible that it may simply that nobody cared- neither that there was an embarrassing stain nor that they ought to point it out. That said, I'm not trying to say apathy was the best route.
The fact that even her friends didn’t tell her makes me mad. I’ve had a similar situation and one of my not-so-close friends told me immediately. I’m sure one of my closer friends would’ve done the same, and that woman’s friends clearly didn’t. Respect to Yuvi.
As a woman,you are a goated person op
As a human,you are a goated person op
I’ve had times where I’ve forgotten a pad and nobody told me they could see or smell my period blood. I’d rather be humiliated for 20 seconds than for 7 hours.
As a human,you are a goated person op
I’ve had times where I’ve forgotten a pad and nobody told me they could see or smell my period blood. I’d rather be humiliated for 20 seconds than for 7 hours.
thx :)
Dec 21, 2025
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BigBoyzz3443 wrote:
... Her friends didn’t tell her. The hundreds of people walking past her, clearly noticing, didn't tell her. They just let her walk on. It leads me to ask, what the hell has happened to us? Are we so afraid of a thirty-second awkward conversation that we’re willing to let a fellow human being suffer public humiliation? I refuse to accept that. ...
Well done. Welcome to the weird folks club.
Just do the right thing. Stop caring about the repercussions if it's just embarrassment. Get off that high socially proper horse and help someone today.
I’m usually a pretty light-hearted guy. I don't like to spend my life being weighed down by negativity, and I generally try not to take things too seriously. But lately, I’ve been reflecting on something I’ve never really spoken about publicly: the direction we are headed as a society, particularly regarding the role and expectations of men. This isn’t an attack on anyone; it’s meant as a sincere encouragement for everyone men, women, and everyone else to simply be better to one another.
Today, I was out in the city just a regular day, hanging out with a few friends until I saw a woman wearing white jeans. It was one of those moments that is a person’s worst nightmare she was on her period and had leaked through her clothes.
What struck me wasn't the accident itself that’s just biology (unfortunate as it may be) it was the reaction of the world around her. Her friends didn’t tell her. The hundreds of people walking past her, clearly noticing, didn't tell her. They just let her walk on. It leads me to ask, what the hell has happened to us? Are we so afraid of a thirty-second awkward conversation that we’re willing to let a fellow human being suffer public humiliation? I refuse to accept that. I refuse to let someone be left behind like that. I ended up taking off my hoodie, approaching her, and explaining as gently as I could who I was and what had happened. I gave her my hoodie to wrap around her waist and some money so she could go buy a new pair of trousers immediately.
Did I have to do it? No. Was it "my problem"? Technically, no. But I did it because it’s the right thing to do. In a world that feels increasingly filled with coldness and indifference, it doesn't hurt to offer a little bit of love and proactive kindness.
This ties into a larger issue. We need to get back to a place where we look out for each other’s safety and comfort. If you see someone being made to feel uncomfortable, whether it’s a man, woman, or anyone else, we all have a responsibility to step in.
Too many times, I’ve seen situations where men are making women feel cornered or unsafe. Often, these situations end in tension or even violence because things were allowed to escalate. I’m not advocating for violence, I’m advocating for intervention. We shouldn’t let the normalization of harassment continue. We shouldn't live in a world where people feel entitled to sexualize strangers or invade their space.
Sometimes, being "better" is as simple as a white lie for a good cause. If you see someone being hassled, go up and pretend you know them. "Hey, I've been looking for you! Ready to go?" That simple act of "faking a friendship" can be the exit strategy someone desperately needs. You could be saving a person from a lifetime of trauma, or worse.
I apologize if this feels like a rant, but I believe we’ve lost the plot a little bit. Being a man, or just a decent human being, isn’t about minding your own business when someone is in trouble. it’s about having the backbone to be the person who helps.
We can do better. We have to do better. Please, do your part to make this world a place where people don't have to walk alone through their hardest or most embarrassing moments.