Ego is a powerful force, and one of the three main things in Freud's theories.
why are people so desperate for a relationship?
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Aug 3, 2024
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#23
BasixWhiteBoy wrote:
I’ve noticed quite a lot of posts on otf about this, people talking about relationships, and more than anywhere else, in the real world. I’m asking this question to see why people are so desperate to have a relationship, usually at very young ages. I would like to discuss why this happens, and why having a companion at a young age is so important. Having a crush on someone is perfectly ok, but here are my standards for having. Most importantly, you have to connect with this person on an emotional level, and have had a deep friendship for a while. By “connect with this person on an emotional level”, I mean that you should have talked to this person for quite a long time, and learned a good amount about their personality, feelings, and much more. Jumping from just meeting this person to a relationship will never work, whether you choose to believe me or not. You should always ask why you would like to be in a relationship with this person before acting on your feelings, I think. If you saw them in the hallway and thought they were pretty, that should be no reason to ask them out. Which brings me to point number 2. You should never ever ever ask a girl or boy out just because she/ he is pretty or handsome. Sooooo many people do this in school, and it’s really painful to watch. Like I said before, it’s more about how the person looks. It should be more about how the person looks and how you guys connect emotionally, at least to me. Doing this will be foolish, and if you want to have a good relationship with a good person, you won’t do this. I guess what I’m trying to say with all of this is there’s really no use in rushing to have a crush, even though there are many benefits to having one. It should happen rather naturally, and shouldn’t be something you have every few weeks. So, I guess what I’m asking is, why are people so desperate for a relationship? This is not meant to offend anybody, and is not an insult to anybody, I’m just asking. Being in a relationship is amazing, it really is, but why do people go to such lengths to try so hard to get there? Alright guys, enjoy the thread, and try to have a thoughtful response to all of this. Thanks.
My eyes were burning when I read the whole thing
Aug 3, 2024
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#24
Asking someone out and dating them for an ego boost is even worse. It’s painful to watch people prefer popularity and everything, and that’s the motivation for even asking someone out. And that’s why I made this thread. I think my views on having a crush are pretty fair.
*Bruvs.
Aug 3, 2024
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#28
I’m not worrying about relationships, as I am in an amazing relationship at the moment. But I just wanted to ask why people want a companionship and wanted to share my views of how you should connect before even going into a relationship.
Aug 3, 2024
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#32
I know, and it’s so painful to watch people get hurt by people that are doing this for their ego and popularity.
#32. Yes, like that guy I told you about... @A_Goat_Named_Meek. He decided to ask me out because he was bored and cheated on me 2 days later. ;-;
#33. Rage, sure. Also yourself.
Aug 3, 2024
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#36
I tried pretending to care about what you just did, but I couldn’t do it. And I apologize deeply for that.
Aug 3, 2024
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#37
Bro so many people mean to me in otf prob because they have a big ego
I can barely even believe that people would pretend to love someone. It's just hurtful, plus I don't know how I'd put up with someone who I didn't love in a relationship.