Abandonment Rules Are Bad Because There Should Be a Harsher Penalty

Dude, you were saying some inflammatory stuff and ignoring things I said. I had to repeat the same thing several times over. After a certain point, it was clear you were following your own narrative. You were making a lot of excuses for incredibly unsportsmanlike behaviour, then you started telling me how I should feel and what I need to do. I accept your apology but don't try to erase that. There are ways to give different perspectives without pushing your own and telling the other person they're wrong for feeling the way they do.

BTW, I just did my insights. I'm sure you'll check it out Just for abandonments not including stalling or cheating, I get it 30% of the time. Whereas others in my elo range have it 13% of the time. And that was a few days ago. So, I am getting it A LOT.

Also, you should know that the information you gave me in the first reply or second reply was helpful. Things started to make sense. Ciao.

It doesn't work.

Tried opening a new tab and play a new game but the old one would show up.

Just start a new game, you won't see the old one but it will still be going on

Lichess has harsher penalties... they will detect if someone abandons a game and issue a warning to the player immediately in the game chat. If the behavior repeats the account is restricted, and it happens quickly. It's not hard to do this. Just requires people paying attention and caring enough. Instead, what you often get is lackluster effort from people collecting paychecks. Chess.com is falling behind lichess.... Meanwhile, people on their forums / even members of the chess.com team continue to make excuses for chess.com's lackluster performance in many facets. Just look at how buggy this forum message box is.

TBH chess.com is failing in the engineering effort, I can tell you that as an engineer. All the signs are there. This is common, especially in larger companies doing IT.. it happens for many reasons but the core issues are laziness / incompetence / disconnection at multiple levels.

> It's not hard to do this. Just requires people paying attention and caring enough. 

Probably a part of local policy

Yeah, it was gaslighty. The excuses were so weak and persistent. I was confused. It felt like he was defending an addict family member. Like why not just acknowledge it's a fault in the system instead of pretending it's not so bad??? I'll be on this site for at least a year with my membership but I'll definitely check out Lichess. Thanks.

Nope. Doesn't work. Tried it again. Hm. Looks like they changed it. Guess, things do change after all!