I think you have to be very objective about examining your own games, particularly your serious OTB games. Win or lose, your games provide your primary learning material. And I'm not talking about going through them with an engine and just observing. You need to take your games apart. How did the opening go? Did you understand it? Where did you leave book, and who deviated first? Check the books afterwards evaluate your play. In the middlegame, did you have a plan? Was the pawn structure one thast you recognized? Did you understand what your opponent's plan was? What about tactics? Did you miss any tactical shots--either yours or your opponent's? If there was an endgame, how did you do? Did you have a plan? Was the ending one that you understood? If not, do some studying and learn the basics of that particular endgame.
It you can get some coaching, all the better, but you can do a tremendous amount of good work on your own. And your own games will provide you with a lot of material.
I'm not done reading this thread yet but as soon as I read this I felt the need to post. What a remarkable response Paul. I am jotting down those particular questions to even help myself as a beginner.
I also copied these questions. Great response.
Hi KnightDwarf!
I know I'm not as good as you are, but I would say to train in tactics a lot, because that is how you win games. Also, you want to play against extremely high-rated opponents. You can learn a lot from them, and if you win, that's amazing. Just try not to lose. Also, play to win. "A drawn game is a wasted game" (Something along the lines of what Hikaru Nakamura once said). Focus on positional play also. The games that aren't decided by tactics are decided by postition. Look at Emanuel Lasker's tips for perfect positional play, and follow them as well as you can. Also, study some of his games if you really want to. Finally, even though it is important not to only play one or two opponents, there should be one or two friends with whom you often compare, discuss, and play with in order to make both yourself and your friends better. That's my a lot more than two cents, and I hope it helps!
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