Have you ever wished, when a game ended, that you could make a deferred challenge against your opponent - in 7 days time, say? If I have just lost to someone, I sometimes like to have time to lick my wounds, analyse my mistakes and devise a counter-strategy before tackling that person again - BUT I don't want to forget to get my revenge! Or should I just use a calendar to schedule future games?

yes calendar it. make your challenge a surprise. =)

shuttlechess92 wrote:

yes calendar it. make your challenge a surprise. =)

 "revenge is a dish best served cold"

I may be misunderstanding a deeper dynamic, but offering a rematch 7 days later seems easy enough, no?

LisaV wrote:

I may be misunderstanding a deeper dynamic, but offering a rematch 7 days later seems easy enough, no?

Easy for most, perhaps, if they are well organised - and certainly not difficult enough to waste anyone's time over. I have around 20 games in progress. The displayed list of current games cannot be sorted by opponent - so it is not immediately obvious to me whether I have a game going with a particular person. The displayed list of friends doesn't show games in progress - so again I can't quickly tell which of my friends I am playing. Finally, though all of my opponents are friendly - they are not all my friends.

dommo wrote:

am i in the inner circle or outer ?

Seed made the point: "I was thinking that apart from the friends list, to create a list with our biggestenemies ( opponents ). Some players that beat us with very bad way & we do not want to forget them, just to have a 2nd chance in the future." http://www.chess.com/forum/view/general/big-enemies

Artfizz wrote " ... all of my opponents are friendly - they are not all my friends."

"A true friend doesn't beat you at chess more often than you beat them!"  Dommo - please take note)

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"A true friend doesn't beat you at chess more often than you beat them!" 

 I thought I was a friendly guy, but under this definition I would be content to just be acquaintances.....  I hate losing!!!!

On the other hand, since I seem to lose about half my games played on chess.com, does that make me an overall a good friend? 

Psychologically however, it does seem to indicate my love/hate relationship with chess.....

Now regarding your topic.....  I like to challenge immediately, until I lose 4 or 5 in a row.....  and then I need a break.  But as soon as I win vs someone with a higher rating, I start feeling a bit of a buzz and thinking that I have improved and am ready to take that opponent on!  A few shots of whiskey makes me feel ready to take the opponent on too, but I may need to curtail that method of courage....  a losing streak can cause quite a bender!  Burp!!!