Isn't that a conclusion you're jumping to? That's so unlike you Elubas. You're usually sitting firmly on the fence.

No, it's just a guess.

Well, stop quessing about things. It doesn't become you. But then, you just want to find something wrong with what I say.

I just point things out because they're worth pointing out. I don't have anything against you.

Worth is relative. Sometimes, it's just not worth pointing out. Depends on who is pointing. Wait! I'm starting to sound like you!

On a forum, almost anything could be worth pointing out. I mean, why not?

Well, it is what we choose to focus on that is telling about a person.

I'm just saying, on a forum, if someone has a thought about something, they should just spit it out. The more ideas out there the more perspective we get. But not in a trolling manner of course. Which is why I don't use derogatory words when addressing people.

i hav 2 words for u...hell yeah..

I assume you guys are joking, but there are some people who want to think they're cool so they join a chess site and just call everyone nerds/losers. It's hilarious.

alteast someone is honest....

lol, its really me

in yo wifes vagina

Why is loneliness getting such a bad rep? It is just a feeling. Why choose to dislike it? Why fear it, or abhor it? There is no need to pathologize it, it is not something that has to be gotten rid off. Of course the thing we fear I think in reality, is how quickly we succumb to its accusations: I'm lonely, no one cares about me etc...

But if you can stay with those thoughts and emotions....neither resisting, trying to escape, but just observing it with the utmost curiosity, presence, and compassion, it is no longer something that needs to be fixed.

“My formula for greatness in a human being is amor fati: that one wants nothing to be different, not forward, not backward, not in all eternity. Not merely bear what is necessary, still less conceal it—all idealism is mendaciousness in the face of what is necessary—but love it” --Nietzche.

 Acceptance I think is not the same as resignation. One can say Yes, I am lonely, and then meet their friends. Or simply read a book. I think the problem starts when we start hating that state. Which is easy to do.

But loneliness is something human. Anything human belongs to me; it is part of my nature; and anything that is part of my nature cannot harm me.

I think this idea will only work if we don't look at our life as only about profit and loss. If we take loneliness as a loss, then we have no place for it in our life. It becomes meaningless and painful. If we can give it some room, and not despise it too much, then maybe it won't be the most awful thing.  In an episode of the Simpsons, Lisa declares, only by suffering we gain a soul...I think it means that we have to grow beyond mere gain and loss. We cannot always have the mindset that Profit is good, and all loss an evil.

Alain de Botton takes the lesson from Nietzche in saying: Not everything that make us suffer is necessarily bad for us, and not everything that makes us feel good, is necessarily actually good for us.

(You can find the quote here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=280Ev9h_C3c&feature=youtu.be&t=23m3s.)

"Lonely people play chess" is not the same as "Chess players are lonely"

its not true for me ;p 

i accept ur statement ludra95

        How the hell can you regard "Bible thumping" - there should have been a capital here - as "hate speech"? It is no more than a gentle tease aimed at religious zealots.

Loneliness is not the same as solitude. I don't like feeling lonely (mercifully that is rare) - but I love solitude.

(Guess where I am on the Introvert/Extrovert spectrum! )

when I saw your post I had to reply, you all need a life!

Play the game, stop showing how dumb you really are...