I rarely made it don't have anything agains't I guess I just ain't too friendly a smile and an handshake is great for me, if I loose Iam fast to say my opponent is to good and when I win (rarely happens antway) I just say I got lucky because he blundered but he played much better...
But on the theorie I guess it as to be a good thing because we get inside our opponent minds and we get to see details and ideas we have never tough about them maybe next game we can apply them.
This is in OTB games, playing online its just ty gg and thats it.
The "post mortem" in chess is supposed to be a friendly exchange of ideas between the two players after the game has concluded. This is something I would like to avoid, with my reasons being that I am done playing the game and would like to either play another, or I would like to reflect on this last game myself. My feelings about immediate discussions after the game are not meant to insult the other player. A nice handshake, or "gg" is all the chess-ettiquette I think necessary. But, this is not as easy as it sounds.
Not too long ago, I played a local tournament. A chess store in the basement of a clothing store runs Saturday, 3 round tournaments once a month, for $5.00 entry fee. The format is each side has 90min. for the game. This tournament had about twenty or so players. But this is all beside the point.
After my first game, the opponent asked me where he had went wrong, while setting up his position of interest. I said "I don't know, I'm going to get some coffee", and started to get up from the table. He continued to ask, "What if this...?" "Maybe this...". I walked away.
Game two was just a handshake, and a smile, after the game.
Game three, and there were a few people watching our game as it concluded. It was drawn. Handshake. "Good game, thanks." He started saying, "You know you could have won if you would have..." I smiled and started to get up to leave. He said, "Here, sit down I'll show you." I said, "It's quite alright, I want to look around." Then he said, "You're actually really good. It's called a "post mortem". Here sit down and I'll show you something."
I smiled and walked over to some book shelves to browse. Somebody, not my opponent said, "She's kind of stuck up, isn't she." Then my opponent, and another guy came up to me. My opponent says, "Sorry. Players here usually discuss the game afterwards. It's called a 'post-mortem'."
He turned out to be nice about it when I told him I was aware of this 'tradition', but just wanted to browse books instead.
I don't like how the post mortem has become part of the game. How it is insulting, or says anything at all about the player who does not partake in it.
But the post mortem is not something I find helpful to me, it is far too soon after the game for me, and I certainly can't understand it when I watch videos of Grandmasters doing it.
It also has this strange psychology behind it. The winner of the chess game sometimes becomes quite full of himself when showing the loser of the game his errors, as well as what he should have done. I also find the reverse uncomfortable to watch, as the loser of the game assumes the role of pupil all-too-readily.
Any thoughts on this subject?