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Only once in our life, We truly believe, we find someone who can completely turn our world around. We tell them things that we’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you we say and actually want to hear more. We share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at us. When something wonderful happens, we can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in our excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with us when we are hurting or laugh with us when we make a fool of ourself. Never do they hurt our feelings or make us feel like we are not good enough, but rather they build us up and show us the things about ourself that make us special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. We can be ourself and not worry about what they will think of us because they love us for who we are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in our heart to cherish forever. Memories of our childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get us through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to our face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but to find we’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested us before become fascinating because we know they are important to this person who is so special to us. We think of this person on every occasion and in everything we do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. We open our heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening our heart, you experience a love and joy that we never dreamed possible. We find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow our heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares us. We find strength in knowing we have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. We only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of our life.

We are afraid that they will meet new people and forget us... we're scared that if we don't talk,, then we'll just become another person in their life and we never want that to happen because they will always be someone special to us. We're scared that one day someone will replace us in their heart  and fill be that one person who made us happy at one point in our life...... It's scares us so much that maybe one day we will drift apart and we'll never hear from them again. It hurts and we can't help but cry when we think that we might lose them from our life. We like them and always want them in it. So to lose them would just hurt so much. We're just so afraid, so all we ask is please don't forget us. We don't want to become just another memory in their head.  

Today we are  crazy about them but maybe tomorrow we won’t be. Today we cares for them but maybe tomorrow we won’t. Today we craves for they're time and attention but maybe tomorrow we won’t even think about them. A day will come when we will have had enough of crying for them and chasing them and slowly we will get over them and move on. And then we will find someone who will gather and love us with all our broken pieces and make us smile all over again. A person who will heal our hurting soul. They will be the person whom we will never give up on and we will love and respect them more than we loved us. That day we will realize that time never comes back for anyone and we will desperately wish we had let us have us. We will wish us had given us your time and attention which we was craving for. SO CHERISH MY LOVE BEFORE I'M GONE FOREVER.

Over the years, we have come to realize that the greatest trap in our life is not success, popularity, or power, but self-rejection. Success, popularity, and power can indeed present a great temptation, but their seductive quality often comes from the way they are part of the much larger temptation to self-rejection. When we have come to believe in the voices that call us worthless and unlovable, then success, popularity, and power are easily perceived as attractive solutions. The real trap, however, is self-rejection. As soon as someone accuses us or criticizes us, as soon as we're rejected, left alone, or abandoned, we find ourself thinking, "Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody." ... [Our dark side says,] We're no good... we deserve to be pushed aside, forgotten, rejected, and abandoned. Self-rejection is the greatest enemy of the spiritual life because it contradicts the sacred voice that calls us the "Beloved." Being the Beloved constitutes the core truth of our existence.

There is a relationship between the eye contacts we make and the perceptions that we create in our heads, a relationship between the sound of another's voice and the emotions that we feel in our hearts, a relationship between our movements in space all around us and the magnetic pulls we can create between others and ourselves. All of these things (and more) make up the magic of every ordinary day and if we are able to live in this magic, to feel and to dwell in it, we will find ourselves living with magic every day. These are the white spaces in life, the spaces in between the written lines, the cracks in which the sunlight filters into. Some of us swim in the overflowing of the wine glass of life, we stand and blink our eyes in the sunlight reaching unseen places, we know where to find the white spaces, we live in magic.

No pain, no gain." You can hear the phrase in the world of physical exercise and conditioning. Muscles that feel no pain are probably getting neither stronger, nor more flexible. It presents an analogy for the exercise of the heart. Those who run the risk of genuine love alone must worry about emotional pain. The more friends; the more good-byes - and the more wakes to attend, the more graves to visit, the more deaths to share. Those who truly live life to the fullest will bear the full cup of suffering. Only those who are willing to pay the price in pain and anguish find life full to the brim. Happy people also suffer; they are no more lucky than the rest. They create their own happiness. That's the rule of thumb.

Some thumbs, however, don't seem to rule very well. Slogans and catch-words, for all their conventional wisdom, fail to carry the whole weight of truth; they leave too much room for false inferences. "No pain, no gain" may leave one with nothing but pain - an intolerable amount of it. There is simply no guarantee that pain will bring gain, that hardship will yield happiness, that suffering will make one a better person. It may; but it's not inevitable.

Living with life is very hard. Mostly we do our best to stifle life - to be tame or to be wanton. to be tranquillised or raging. Extremes have the same effect; they insulate us from the intensity of life.

And extremes - whether of dullness or fury - successfully prevent feeling. I know our feelings can be so unbearable that we employ ingenious strategies - unconscious strategies- to keep those feelings away. We do a feelings-swap, where we avoid feeling sad or lonely or afraid or inadequate, and feel angry instead. It can work the other way, too - sometimes you do need to feel angry, not inadequate; sometimes you do need to feel love and acceptance, and not the tragic drama of your life.

It takes courage to feel the feeling - and not trade it on the feelings-exchange, or even transfer it altogether to another person. You know how in couples one person is always doing all the weeping or the raging while the other one seems so calm and reasonable?

I understood that feelings were difficult for me although I was overwhelmed by them.

When all the world appears to be in a tumult, and nature itself is feeling the assault of climate change, the seasons retain their essential rhythm. Yes, fall gives us a premonition of winter, but then, winter, will be forced to relent, once again, to the new beginnings of soft greens, longer light,and the sweet air of spring .Life changes so quickly. feeling grateful to be around such wonderful people to strengthen and grow with.

When you finally accept that it's OK not to have answers and it's OK not to be perfect, you realize that feeling confused is a normal part of what it is to be a human being.

Dear Guys.... I hope you will like this blog. Why "????" is the title? Coz I did not know what type of feelings in it in this blog, its more in general. Mostly the one we always felt.

Tell me what do you think about my blog??? Did you enjoyed reading it???  Your comment and wanting to share something is always welcome here.

Thanks a lot.

always,

Theresa