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Sportsmanship can be conceptualized as an enduring and relatively stable characteristic or disposition such that individuals differ in the way they are generally expected to behave in sport situations. In general, sportsmanship refers to virtues such as fairness, self-control, courage, and persistence,[3] and has been associated with interpersonal concepts of treating others and being treated fairly, maintaining self-control if dealing with others, and respect for both authority and opponents. Sportsmanship is also looked at as being the way one reacts to a sport/game/player. A competitor who exhibits poor sportsmanship after losing a game or contest is often called a “sore loser” (those who show poor sportsmanship after winning are typically called “bad champs”). Sore loser behavior includes blaming others for the loss, not accepting responsibility for personal actions that contributed to the defeat, reacting to the loss in an immature or improper fashion, making excuses for the defeat, and citing unfavorable conditions or other petty issues as reasons for the defeat. [4][5] A bad winner acts in a shallow fashion after his or her victory, such as by gloating about his or her win, rubbing the win in the face(s) of the opponent(s), and lowering the opponent(s)’s self-esteem by constantly reminding the opponent(s) of “poor” performance in comparison (even if the opponent(s) competed well). How to Overcome Being a Sore Loser Whether your team just lost the soccer finals, you lost out on a prime position at a chess match, , being a sore loser only makes matters worse. Instead of pouting, shouting or acting younger than your years, pick yourself up and overcome the obstacles in front of you. Hypercritical Obstacles If your version of being a sore loser includes crying, pouting and wallowing in the sadness of your loss, take a closer look at who you really are. Ask yourself if you’re being overcritical of your loss or if you started out with unrealistic expectations. Was it really your fault that the football team lost? Did your crush truly pick your best bud over you because you’re a loser? Probably not. It’s more likely that other factors — such as a deep connection between your crush and your friend — had more to do with it. Ask a friend or close family member to help you evaluate the situation and provide you with a realistic perspective, recommends psychology professor Thomas Plante. Self-Esteem Sufferers When you’re down in the dumps because you aren’t “winning,” boosting your self-esteem is a must. It’s possible that your lack of self-esteem is getting in the way. Instead of viewing your loss as a major flub, turn it around and make it a learning opportunity, suggests the article “How Can I Improve My Self-Esteem?” Everyone makes mistakes, and everyone loses sometimes. For example, playing the wrong chess move, not preforming a blunder check before moving ,instead of stomping out of the office or computer because your friend got a promotion instead of you, remind yourself that it was your lack of skills and talents ,that has placed you in this postion. Congratulations, Someone Else Won Take a tip from pro athletes. Although there are certainly exceptions, for the most part after a “big game” you’ll see the professionals congratulate the other team whether they win or lose, as noted on NBA.com. Even if you’re feeling sad, mad or just plain annoyed that you lost, rise above the negative emotions and congratulate the person — or team — who won. This strategy doesn’t just apply to the sports field. Translate it into your romantic or work life too. For example, if both you and your friend like the same guy, and he asks her out, act in a mature way and tell her that you’re happy for her. Keep Your Cool Even though you might feel like screaming when you lose, blame other’s for cheating, calling people lier’s, throwing a tantrum isn’t the way to go. Keep your cool, calm down and relax instead of acting out with an attitude. Walk away from the situation if you feel your temper flaring. This gives you time to collect yourself and think about the situation at hand. Keep in mind that keeping your cool isn’t always easy to do and will take maturity and focus. If you’re in a group situation, your teammates’ reactions can compound this challenge. Just because other people or your parent’s told you “it’s alright little Johnny ” you being a sore losers doesn’t mean that you need to join the self-pity bandwagon. ! Be the Bigger person, put on those big boy’s pant’s ,suck it up ,and hit the books and try harder next time..! Hint, Hint..