A sore loser reported me! for no reason :(

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Spielkalb
IMKeto wrote:
Spielkalb wrote:
IMKeto wrote:

"...but this individual seriously offended me."

So you're "seriously offended" over an accusation from someone you don't know, regarding something you didn't do?

It is clear that English is not the mother tongue of the OP.  Picking on a single expression out of context is a really bad behaviour of yours. 

Out of context?

The OP is claiming to be "seriously offended" over an accusation from someone they don't know, regarding something they didn't do.

How is that out of context?

It is "out of context" because you pick on the  expression "seriously offended".  If you read the whole post, you'll see that he is "seriously worried" about what happens to his account.  That is the context you've got to keep in mind. 

As far as I understand the OP, his concerns are not about his ego,  but about the consequences of such a report he described. By taking this single expression literally you twisted his intention 180 degrees. 

StormCentre3

Yes. Perhaps I reacted rather hastily in assuming the OP was seeking attention. We see the behavior far too often- the repetition of negative behavior by copy/paste with OP’s making statement they themselves are not being negative by pointing out bad sportsmanship. Perhaps he’s new and has not thought things out- was taken aback and became disappointed. I apologize in such a case. I think in most cases such threads are made knowingly- posters repeat bad behavior with a qualification when the intent is rather obvious- to spread further negative discourse. In this case it does appear by the OP’s profile he’s rather new to internet chess - and was rather oblivious to such shenanigans.

LazyDog24
StormCentre3 wrote:

Yes. Perhaps I reacted rather hastily in assuming the OP was seeking attention. We see the behavior far too often- the repetition of negative behavior by copy/paste with OP’s making statement they themselves are not being negative by pointing out bad sportsmanship. Perhaps he’s new and has not thought things out- was taken aback and became disappointed. I apologize in such a case. I think in most cases such threads are made knowingly- posters repeat bad behavior with a qualification when the intent is rather obvious- to spread further negative discourse. In this case it does appear by the OP’s profile he’s rather new to internet chess - and was rather oblivious to such shenanigans.

It's fine, I assumed the same thing with this thread too. But then I realized he was just new. All of us are guilty of posting too fast at times.

Spielkalb
StormCentre3 wrote:

Yes. Perhaps I reacted rather hastily in assuming the OP was seeking attention. We see the behavior far too often- the repetition of negative behavior by copy/paste with OP’s making statement they themselves are not being negative by pointing out bad sportsmanship. Perhaps he’s new and has not thought things out- was taken aback and became disappointed. I apologize in such a case. I think in most cases such threads are made knowingly- posters repeat bad behavior with a qualification when the intent is rather obvious- to spread further negative discourse. In this case it does appear by the OP’s profile he’s rather new to internet chess - and was rather oblivious to such shenanigans.

We all make assumptions about the intention of some else's postings. I always try to give the OP the benefit of the doubt. Especially in international forums, where English is not the native tongue of many of the participants. 

Spielkalb
LazyDog24 wrote:
StormCentre3 wrote:

Yes. Perhaps I reacted rather hastily in assuming the OP was seeking attention. We see the behavior far too often- the repetition of negative behavior by copy/paste with OP’s making statement they themselves are not being negative by pointing out bad sportsmanship. Perhaps he’s new and has not thought things out- was taken aback and became disappointed. I apologize in such a case. I think in most cases such threads are made knowingly- posters repeat bad behavior with a qualification when the intent is rather obvious- to spread further negative discourse. In this case it does appear by the OP’s profile he’s rather new to internet chess - and was rather oblivious to such shenanigans.

It's fine, I assumed the same thing with this thread too. But then I realized he was just new. All of us are guilty of posting too fast at times.

Funny how different our perceptions are. The thought the OP was seeking intention has never occurred to me. If you read the first post again, he is starting with appraising his experiences within this community and states his issue after that introduction.  

IMKeto
Spielkalb wrote:
IMKeto wrote:
Spielkalb wrote:
IMKeto wrote:

"...but this individual seriously offended me."

So you're "seriously offended" over an accusation from someone you don't know, regarding something you didn't do?

It is clear that English is not the mother tongue of the OP.  Picking on a single expression out of context is a really bad behaviour of yours. 

Out of context?

The OP is claiming to be "seriously offended" over an accusation from someone they don't know, regarding something they didn't do.

How is that out of context?

It is "out of context" because you pick on the  expression "seriously offended".  If you read the whole post, you'll see that he is "seriously worried" about what happens to his account.  That is the context you've got to keep in mind. 

As far as I understand the OP, his concerns are not about his ego,  but about the consequences of such a report he described. By taking this single expression literally you twisted his intention 180 degrees. 

Being seriously offended and worried about the account are two different thing.

Spielkalb
IMKeto wrote:

Being seriously offended and worried about the account are two different thing.

Yes indeed. And that's why context matters. In my experience English and American people are terribly bad in understanding what effort it is to express yourself in a foreign language. That's only natural because English is the world language after all. 

My native language is German and I lived in the UK for some years. So I can claim that I know what I'm talking about  here. 

You just pick up the expression being seriously offended and don't take attention to the context within this expression is said.  You have to take into your consideration that a non-native speaker may chooses a word which is not exactly fitting to his thoughts and could be interpreted in a wrong way. 

So just try to get the intention of the post and don't hang on to single wordings to strictly. Otherwise you'll lose it and get it all wrong. 

duntcare

cc has a advanced cheat detection team

they can cheat detect without reports unless its subtle enough with on off but thats detectable too but it doesnt matter, u never needed to post this either

Terminator-T800

My wife beat me with a stick cause I didn't do the house work cause I was playing chess. She even beats me in my dreams nownervous.png

StormCentre3

“Funny how different our perceptions are. The thought the OP was seeking intention has never occurred to me. If you read the first post again, he is starting with appraising his experiences within this community and states his issue after that introduction.”

If I’m put off by bad sportsmanship- the last thing I’d consider doing is copy/paste the behavior thereby repeating such behavior for all to see. Then moan and groan about something everybody knows is common occurrence and easily avoided.

Making public example is not much different than the original.  Qualifying the  response by saying  “I’m not being such and such”  But look and listen to what this guy did-  it’s offensive accomplishes little. 
Very often such threads are saying nothing more than look at me. I was mistreated. No content is seen or suggested regarding the avoidance of such. The OP continued the discussion, egged on the nonsense where he should have simply left the conversation after the 1st accusation. It was a private affair made public.  That’s my take. What does a thread about abusive behavior accomplish when little is suggested to avoid/ correct  all the chess playing misfits? The title resorts to name calling- easy to assume he’s seeking attention.

minhduc220911
Sack_o_Potatoes wrote:

Oh wait, the title has sore loser, never mind.

who is the sore loser you are talking about?

The_Blue_Nightshade

who was taht guy please tell me in pm

sir_mad_alot
RDkhanna wrote:

who was taht guy please tell me in pm

@RDKhanna @minhduc220911
This post alone has caused enough choas. I don't think I should.

KeSetoKaiba
sir_mad_alot wrote:

I don't mean to out anybody or spread negativity. This has never been me. I always try to seek out positive aspects no matter what the situation is. Up until today I had a wonderful experience with chess.com community. People are always so helping. One guy @KeSetoKaiba (with much more experience & 2000+ rapid rating) went as far to play some unrated matches with me so that he could analyze my games and give me some tips. It meant a great deal to me. Shout out to this !!!!
& then there's this guy, who reported my account right away without giving it a second thought just because he thought I was using some kind of engine. Which I don't even know how I can use. I will not mention this guy's profile, but this individual seriously offended me. & if I lose my account/subscription to this sore loser, it would be really unfair

Thanks for the friendly shout-out and happy to help happy.png

As for others, I don't worry about it too much. "I can't stop people from spreading rumors, but I can make sure they aren't true." I heard that quotation somewhere (can't remember source), yet I am reminded of it now. 

Luckily, I love chess.com's cheat detection and how chess.com staff generally handles things. I have confidence that if the game(s) remain fair, then chess.com won't take incorrect action (and in the unlikely event chess.com messes it up, you are free to appeal that chess.com decision by messaging staff). happy.png

Just do your best, don't worry too much on what others think and keep being the best version of you happy.png

 

TheHarbingerOfDoom
If you look at how he blanked out the name you can see it begins with an a. If you look at his recent game history you can work out who it was who said it.
tomfinney123

naming and shaming is anti cc etiquette , can we keep that in mind and stop asking who the other player is , cheers 

V3RD1CT

Don't worry your are playing bad sometimes this mean you aren't cheating!!

Abhigyan2014

 

you can try out the following steps till that hacker gets banned:

 quickly send this to your friends on chess.com.
try telling everyone to block him/her and report them
quickly send this to chess. com keeps care people till they reply and ban him/her

StormCentre3

Yep. A copy of the screen shot makes it very easy to research who the opponent was. Members comment they are not intending to name and shame specific members by this method but obviously this is not true. They know exactly what they are doing. Attempts to be coy and ignorant of such tactics is hard to believe. The  charade is a common tactic that’s practiced to feign ignorance and avoid possible repercussions. The original it now appears to have been edited. Perhaps the OP realized his mistake.

MisterWindUpBird

I have an easy trick to avoid people being distracting and rude during games. The first step is you turn off chat. And you're done!