erik, we are frustrated

Oh, is that why I can’t see anyone’s notes, except for my friends?

I just got this:

Hello Optimissed

Your account is in violation of our Sportsmanship Policy. https://www.chess.com/community

You are currently limited to playing only other Poor Sports. This means your wait times will be longer, and you may not be able to enter Tournaments or Arenas. If you would like to return to faster pairings and playing Good Sports, please follow our Sportsmanship Policy for your next several games and your account will be automatically adjusted.

If you are having issues where you are disconnecting unintentionally, please contact us at support@chess.com and we will be happy to troubleshoot this issue with you.

A couple of weeks ago my computer crashed and became entirely dysfunctional. Had to throw it away. It was right in the middle of a ten minute game which I was winning although I had blundered and missed at least one win. So because my computer crashed once, apparently I'm a poor sport. A while back, there were multiple disconnections from the games host but I do not believe it was due to my computer because I was still able to interact with Chess.com. Don't you think it may be libelous to call people "poor sports" when they are not? 

"Libelous"...are you serious?

I dont think it's libelous. The definition of poor sport here is probably extremely broad. Not granting rematches is called poor sportsmanship. Not resigning is sometimes called poor sportsmanship. Resigning at the wrong time is poor sportsmanship. Chess.com probably considers getting disconnected poor sportsmanship, even if you are winning. Just playing chess here, under any circumstance, is suspect. I wouldn't worry about it too much. The no disconnecting policy is in place for your own good.

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This kind of warning doesn't show up from one game, but from more than that. If you keep playing without abandoning, making opponents waiting, etc, then very shortly you will return to the normal pool. Thank you!

Does this mean that the user can prove nothing and you do not have to say anything?

I don't know what you mean by this. I think the OP makes some great points. Communicating with our members is a challenge, and we can do better. 

You did.

Ya.

What it means chess.com can not or will not say anything therefore nothing can be proven by anyone

They don't get any additional benefit for being friend with me. 

New members can do whatever they wish after creating new accounts.

It is their own accounts, their own rules.

  If I read this correctly,....drmrboss just posted in a thread directed to & at Erik--CEO of Chess.com. Most members come to this thread to express frustration to the CEO and site Admins about policies & procedures relating to the running of said site. drmrboss seems to be having a problem with his "friends" accounts.  My suggestion is 2-fold. First......Erik, or his representatives should arrange a meeting with the other chess sites that drmrboss belongs to, so as to compare notes & intel, IP adresses, P.M's, etc etc.  2nd......the offers that were made to Red Girl by the "Community Defenders" in the recent past who had a similar problem with unwanted friends should also be extended to the good Dr.  I'm sure more than a few members of that group would want the good Dr's account to be monitored on a daily basis...(if not hourly)..... and it only seems fair that if an offer was made to Red Girl, it should also be extended to other members with "similar" problems.  Good....then its settled....I'll take 1st watch!  

In the world outside the internet and the anonymity it provides, the actions that drmrboss advocates would be regarded as criminal. He hides behind, slogans of free speech, imagined rights, their account - their own rules. Making up one's own rules, encouraging others to be disruptive and abusive of community guidelines would result in time between bars.

Most members are frustrated that such members are given the latitude to disrespect the chess community. The issue of censorship and banning accounts becomes a complicated issue. Unfortunately, what is observed in the forums, are the disgruntled people who reject and rebel against any form of authority. We don't hear from the vast majority, people who live by established guidelines and respect the rules.

It works both ways ... this frustration. Many do become frustrated with certain policies and how they are enforced. This is a fair concern.

But to openly represent a position that it is a persons right to be disrespectful and ignore community guidelines becomes just as frustrating that the activity is allowed to persist.

Sounds like antifa

   I know in public housing if you have guests over......your responsible for their behaviour.

Well, it's the age old issue of community. People make the choice, the decision to live together. Most often out of necessity. There will always be differences between an individuals rules and community rules. A compromise becomes the order of the day. The definition of "growing up" is closely related to learning how as an individual is to fit in, get along with the community they live in. Living by the motto, "my rules" and only my rules while at the same time taking advantage of all the benefits a community provides is the definition of "immaturity".

I'm with you dude, but as to the above comment, it is not a complicated issue at all. I have seen more than one forum where civility is demanded, and it is achieved.  First, chess.com needs to give a $41t, but they apparently don't.  After that, you man up with moderators who have a clear mission, and you take out the trash.  

As long as civility is demanded civilly....