Kicked from Live Chess (please read!)

I admit, I threw out a couple of curse words, but only because my opponent didn't make a single move for THIRTEEN MINUTES in a 30 minute match. Before I jumped to any conclusions (he might be planning a massive chess scheme), I checked his profile and saw many notes from other players criticizing him and warning others to not play him. I understand my words were wrong, but this really pushed me over the edge. Chess.com should also be better equipped to detect this kind of stalling and unethical behavior. Is there any way I could appeal my being kicked off? Thanks in advance!

It's temporary.  Say it; shout it even, but don't type it!

Unless wife is around, of course.

I don't see a problem, if he's not moving and his clock is running down it's to YOUR advantage. If he times out you win. If he rushes all his moves because he wasted time it's better for you. It's a 30 minute match. Having an opponent waste 13 minutes on one move would make me happy.

You have been given two bits of good advice...don't swear and use the time that your opponent has so graciously given you.

Now I have no idea if your opponent was intending to continue to play or not, but you must understand if you sign up to a 30 minute match he has every right to use his time as he pleases. It is not stalling or unethical. Heck he might even have needed to use the bathroom !

Although, I've noticed that if opponent times out by not making a move for a long time, the opponent "may have violated our fair play policy" message pops up, so it's apparent that Chess.com is aware of this serious problem, and is dilligently working to correct it.

Very valid points. Thank you for responding. Lagomorph, that's why I checked the player's notes before assuming anything; he had a history of ditching games. It is true that they are entitled to all 30 minutes, but this must be a violation of both sportsmanship and the fair play policy. I come to play live chess not so I can get an easy win/points just because someone spent half an hour on one move; I came for good competition, sportsmanship, and matches.

It's like holding the basketball for 23 out of the 24 seconds of the shot clock; one team will easily win, but has the nominally winning team really achieved anything?

How temporary is it, baddogno?

i know how you feel. your sitting in your chair watching your screen for 10 minutes straight calculating your next moves and vations and ou get excited thinking ill be able to press m oponet just so all of that can go to waste.. i gave up playing standard because of this....but hang in there bro youl only improve by playing slower chess

It's a sliding scale depending on how creative your cursing was.  For a first offense it's usually only 4 hours, but could be up to a day.  I'm no mod though, so this is just what I've read.

If I type what I say when I blunder I'd be kicked for a year at least...

The automatic moderator always uses the default of 30 minutes. Human moderators can specify a longer time frame, but that would be for repeat offences.

It believe it does get tracked, and that after a while the matching algorithm only matches high disconnectors with other high disconnectors, but I'm not 100% on that.

According to this member, that is indeed exactly what happens.  

http://www.chess.com/forum/view/general/my-chesscom-experiment