I feel that since I am paying for a membership on chess.com, they should be giving the paying members like me priority to the site first before the non paying members.
It's a valid point, but I like the idea of having a website where everyone can play regardless of their ability to pay. To some people, the membership fee is easily affordable, whereas to others it's a fortune. A website that's inclusive is preferable, IMO, to a two-tiered system based on wealth.
The priority should be to increase server capacity ASAP.

So recently, I've been losing some games due to the database overload. Even when I'm not playing a match, I sometimes get database overloads while doing puzzles/lessons, which is pretty annoying. I feel that since I am paying for a membership on chess.com, they should be giving the paying members like me priority to the site first before the non paying members.