The Fight against Inconsideration

Would you be angry if somebody made you wait 25 minutes in a Live game?

By your logic, you agreed to a 30-minute control, and should only play 5-minute games from now on.

Another example: I just had 2 different games in which my opponent made no move, waited 14 days, and then aborted the game!

WONDER WORLD OF CHESS IS, AS IS SOCIETY, ABOUND W/ CRACK-POTS. JUST MOVE ON, ENJOY THE GAME.

So what's your suggested alternative? Punish the other player because they took 13 days 23 hours to make a move when the agreed time limit was 14 days? What would have been an acceptable time limit for you to not consider him inconsiderate? 1 day? 2 days? 4 days? What if he moved after 10 days? How do you draw the line? Look, you agreed on the time limit of 14 days per move, and you did not agree on "reducing" the time limit depending on the game situation. If you do not like to wait for 14 days, choose a lower time limit. Nothing to see here. End of story.

Most good chess coaches agree you should use all time available to you.

Do not be upset your time "wasting" opponents have better technique.

14 days per move!?  At that rate a typical 40 move game would take over a year and a half!

I don't get the point of correspondence chess.  Why would you WANT to wait so long to finish a game?  If you want slow thinking chess then play a long live game where you at least get an outcome in a reasonable amount of time.

Maybe you've got other things to do (and like to only think about a game for a little while every so often).

And that's why they never played a single move in 2 weeks?! They were obviously online to abort the games...

Sarcastic? Serious?

Okay why is cake in this discussion?!

Now that you mention it, some cake does sound good now... but it's still off topic!

No. This may actually be slightly annoying, but in a turn-based game waiting should cause you no inconvienience whatsoever. It's not as if you have to sit there in front of the game for 14 days, so just do something else, start another game.

I also support in principle the idea of a reporting system. But note that a user who reports too often will have their reports overall discounted. This corresponds to someone who might get offended every time an opponent says "good luck" before the game and "good game" after the game.

I completely agree with pminear(*)(CA)'s note 2.

I don't know why they don't have accumulative time controls in chess.com's cc games.   40 moves in 160 days would give you plenty of time to think on critical moves.  It might be simpler, I wouldn't bother with hours and minutes, just round down to whole days, and if a person made a move the same day it would be 0 time spent.

Yohan_Saboba 

I have done something similar to your opponent.  My opponent took my queen very early on and it set me back on my heels.  I could immediately have resigned but decided not to do so until I'd looked at the position to see whether my opponent and I might still get some pleasure from playing out some more moves.  I did not give a high priority to this but a day or two later I had spent a few minutes looking at the position and decided I would play on. I had read a couple of articles about the queen for two rooks exchange and wanted to see how dominant my opponent's queen would be. I did not have a plan and another day went by until I bothered to find another couple of minutes to settle on some way to go about further play.  It was a three day time limit and I think I had four or five hours left by then.  I subsequently played out the game with my usual rhythm.

Which means I am not so sure as you that your opponent was motivated by spite.

My opponent held no grudge because we subsequently played a couple more times together.

Just set the time controls to what you can live with and enjoy the game and ceaase the....

Chess.com should create new time controls for exactly this kind of problem.

Instead of a simple time control of 14 days, for example, they should have composite time controls like 14/7/3 days: you get up to 14 days per move when you're being considerate, up to 7 days when you're being neither considerate nor inconsiderate, and only 3 days when you're being inconsiderate.

Other solution :join a few new games and forget about this guy,when he make the move,then  you take 14 days to move and so on and You dont care no more ,continue enjoy chess with other nice people until He get tired and resing.