Knowing that one day you will win them all, these though will keep me going
How do you deal with losing a lot?
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Taking a break after a loss streak can help you get back on winning ways.
Go into the game with the intention of loosing! That way when you loose you won’t be too deflated 😆
just lose and win
Nov 20, 2021
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#26
Chess is a grind. I lose a lot as well but i try to learn one thing from each game win or lose. I tend to get more frustration from not applying what I’ve learned than losing another game. Hang in there, keep playing.
Scandinavian baby that’s how
I’m the same
Thanks for all the responses! I have read them all and taken them into consideration
i look at myself, question what i even am, take a look in the screen and then get motivated once more for another game and then find happiness when i finally win for the first time
My husband gave me some really good advice once when I first got to a place where I started winning more often. He said “that’s great! And eventually you’ll start loosing more often again because you’ve gotten up to a place where people are a good match for you. And then you’ll learn more and fight harder and start winning again.” It’s just a curve, it just means your learning and getting better!
Nov 21, 2021
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#35
You are not losing a lot. You only play Rapid, and you are winning 51% of your games. Even the top players only win 50% of their games when competing against others of similar strength. Change your perception, and your stress will disappear.
Nov 21, 2021
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#36
I just don't play for a while cuz over-playing leads my mind to exhaustion.
Or maybe I...
SCREAM??!!
Zoom out and look at the trend.
i get frustarated
sorry if the spelling is wrong
Nov 22, 2021
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#40
Well, I tell myself that in life we lose and we win games, that's just how it works, and next time I just do my best to win. But if I lose a lot of times I kind of rage and I'm a bit frustrated but after a few minutes, or hours I just cool if off and I just accept it and move on with life.
But don't just keep playing and hope that you win, that's not really how chess works... Losing is a part of the journey to get better, in order to get better we have to learn from the mistakes we do and make sure we don't repeat them, but part of the journey is also winning, cause in the end if we keep losing, I don't think we're ever going to get better and advance in the journey.
Anyways, that's my opinion and point of view on it. I don't know how to end this properly so, Have a good day!
I've smashed a lot of furniture. I don't recommend this though as it can get expensive.
Just approaching the same frustrations I think we all have, it seems that what you're experiencing is completely normal. You'll probably fluctuate within 100 or so ratings points for a while. Terrible days will come where you feel everyone must be cheating (almost certainly not the case), and other days where you're killing it, even got a Brilliancy!! or two, with very few blunders.
Fact is, if we continued to win more than we lost (once reaching our peak rating), we'd become chess masters in unrealistic record time. Competing against people better than you is the way to improve. But, when you play people better than you, expect to lose more often than you win. That's the bittersweet logic. As long as you study your losses (and wins) your progress will be subtle but inevitable... noticable from year-to-year, not month-to-month.
I'm relatively new to chess, but a regular competitor in various sports, and this seems to be the case across the board, even in chess--as I hear much of the age old wisdom practiced in this sport, as it is in all the others I'm better at and more familiar with. The recipe for success seems to apply the same way it does in wrestling, basketball, rugby, etc.
[Loss + Studying + more losses & studying = Improvement & Success]
Best of luck!