How do you deal with losing a lot?

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Chilling_on_Wednesday

You need to wear your " I don't give a sh*t at all" pants before playing

Edward_Fingerhands

I've smashed a lot of furniture. I don't recommend this though as it can get expensive.

Just approaching the same frustrations I think we all have, it seems that what you're experiencing is completely normal.  You'll probably fluctuate within 100 or so ratings points for a while.  Terrible days will come where you feel everyone must be cheating (almost certainly not the case), and other days where you're killing it, even got a Brilliancy!! or two, with very few blunders.  

Fact is, if we continued to win more than we lost (once reaching our peak rating), we'd become chess masters in unrealistic record time.   Competing against people better than you is the way to improve. But, when you play people better than you, expect to lose more often than you win. That's the bittersweet logic.  As long as you study your losses (and wins) your progress will be subtle but inevitable... noticable from year-to-year, not month-to-month.  

I'm relatively new to chess, but a regular competitor in various sports, and this seems to be the case across the board, even in chess--as I hear much of the age old wisdom practiced in this sport, as it is in all the others I'm better at and more familiar with.  The recipe for success seems to apply the same way it does in wrestling, basketball, rugby, etc.

 [Loss + Studying + more losses & studying = Improvement & Success]

Best of luck!

alibodaghi

Knowing that one day you will win them all, these though will keep me going

ASCOMLexicon

Taking a break after a loss streak can help you get back on winning ways.

forbo1974
Go into the game with the intention of loosing! That way when you loose you won’t be too deflated 😆
andrewpalmer123

just lose and win

Wits-end

Chess is a grind. I lose a lot as well but i try to learn one thing from each game win or lose. I tend to get more frustration from not applying what I’ve learned than losing another game. Hang in there, keep playing.

Not_Socks
Scandinavian baby that’s how
00Yams
I’m the same
randomusernameok

Thanks for all the responses! I have read them all and taken them into consideration

naftuch14

practice

naftuch14

 but me not so good tods

Caffeineed
Break stuff
Kowarenai

i look at myself, question what i even am, take a look in the screen and then get motivated once more for another game and then find happiness when i finally win for the first time

jcr00ks
My husband gave me some really good advice once when I first got to a place where I started winning more often. He said “that’s great! And eventually you’ll start loosing more often again because you’ve gotten up to a place where people are a good match for you. And then you’ll learn more and fight harder and start winning again.” It’s just a curve, it just means your learning and getting better!
MovedtoLiches

You are not losing a lot. You only play Rapid, and you are winning 51% of your games. Even the top players only win 50% of their games when competing against others of similar strength. Change your perception, and your stress will disappear. 

PluviophiIe

I just don't play for a while cuz over-playing leads my mind to exhaustion. 

Or maybe I...

SCREAM??!! 

Lambshanksandmash
Zoom out and look at the trend.
alekhinesgmmihirvsdaddy

i get frustarated

alekhinesgmmihirvsdaddy

sorry if the spelling is wrong