Hurry up & move!

I didn’t know that was an option. I will do that going forward, thank you
Actually, I have it so that it will notify me if they send a message, and I can voluntarily choose whether to see it or not. Same idea, I guess

You can use your time the way you want. Unless you purposefully stall a lost game, you absolutely can take your time on any move. People who get impatient are normally low rated players who just don't know better.

Hi @SkyKingandPenny
I feel sympathy for you. I encourage you that there is still community that has totally opposite attitude.
https://www.chess.com/blog/fhunfi/reasons-to-join-90m-30s-chess-com-online-chess-club

Have you tried playing Daily?
It is intended to work the same way as Postal Chess does in real life. I typically played at the time control of one move every three days (although I often made my move faster than that, of course).
In Daily, you are even allowed to use books or instructional videos to guide you through the opening. That would be cheating if you did it in Rapid or Blitz, but it's perfectly valid in Daily.


Have you tried playing Daily?
In what sense would that help with the problem described above?