Intimidated Newbie

Hi. I'm new at playing chess and lose ALL the time. I just started learning chess and playing on chess.com this week! I've played live players and nobody has bullied me yet for playing too slowly or resigning. plus, even when I know I'm done for, I play until the end because I want to see what they do. Also, you can adjust the time so you can play for 30 minutes and that takes some of the pressure off. I'll play with you...I might even ask you questions bc I get the basic gist of the game and which way the pieces can move but I have NO skill lol so, you'll probably win if you play me haha!!! Basically, just jump in. I think they set people up whose score by your name is basically in the same area. They haven't pitted me (ie. 230) against someone else (ie. 1234) because that wouldn't be a fair game. Good luck and let's play together :)

In chess, knowledge is the antidote to intimidation...

Embark on the journey - study and learn...

https://www.chess.com/blog/RussBell

and...

Play Longer Time Controls...

For many at the beginner-novice level, speed chess tends to be primarily an exercise in moving pieces around faster than your opponent while avoiding checkmate, in hopes that his/her clock runs out sooner than yours.  And/or hoping to notice and exploit more of your opponent’s blunders than they do of yours.

There is little time to think about what you should be doing.

It makes sense that taking more time to think about what you should be doing would promote improvement in your chess skills.

An effective way to improve your chess is therefore to play mostly longer time controls, including "daily" chess, so you have time to think about what you should be doing.

This is not to suggest that you should necessarily play exclusively slow or daily time controls, but they should be a significant percentage of your games - at least as much, if not more so than speed games which, while they may be fun, do almost nothing to promote an understanding of how to play the game well.

Here's what IM Jeremy Silman, well-known chess book author, has to say on the topic...
https://www.chess.com/article/view/longer-time-controls-are-more-instructive

And Dan Heisman, well-known chess teacher and chess book author…
https://web.archive.org/web/20140627052239/http:/www.chesscafe.com/text/heisman16.pdf

https://www.chess.com/blog/RussBell/dan-heisman-resources

and the experience of a FIDE Master...
https://www.chess.com/forum/view/general/how-blitz-and-bullet-rotted-my-brain-don-t-let-it-rot-yours

@Dave_EG. I have the same experience as you, except I started a few months earlier. Lots of comments that address your question have been posted already, and I can attest that they do work. If you're interested, we can play unrated 30|0 or 15|10.

Do not fear. You may lodge at my castle. I will have igor escort you to the dining hall when your dinner is ready. I do not eat or drink, it is due to a medical condition.

So much to respond to. Thanks to each of you! Some mental summaries I've made as browsing the responses:

1) Play games that allow days per move and study (see checklists)/make notes

2) Use YouTube and other online resources (I'm already watching the beginner to master series).

3) If chat/people are annoying, ignore and move on. Use chat controls.

4) Play slower games to learn.

5) Books are good resources (I probably have my grandfathers chess books in a box in my closet!)

6) Use a real board (simple but genius) to practice and study (play along with online games).

U got it, that's a good start. Don't forget simple endings and tactics. Ur gonna be a GM soon.

why do I take his queen and the game continue ???

I find myself in a very similar boat to you in the sense I have recently started getting into playing chess more.

Accidentally sent without finishing! I am getting more into chess as well and found playing people quite daunting, especially faster paced blitz. My experience has found that playing the rapid game 15 minutes with 10 second after each go very good. This allows you spend time thinking of each move with other players who are generally playing the same sort of tempo. People won't get annoyed at you for thinking moves through etc if they do they are in the wrong category. Playing until the end isn't always bad either, gives both players an opportunity to practice their end game play which is always good. Feel free to add me if you fancy playing some longer timed games (rated or unrated I don't mind) if you want a friendly non-intimidating game 😊

This might be a troll, but just in case: 

It is because taking the queen does not mean that the game is over. Even though you might be winning, it is not over until you checkmate the king.

I play chess for like half a year mainly 15/10 and ranked. In the beginning I got stomped by pretty much everybody and that turned me off after each loosing streak. But with time I got better, my opponents worse and now Im slowly climbing up again with a ton of fun! A few month back I would never have thought that I would spend time learning about chess history and so on. But this game hooked me. So please don't be discouraged by the intimidating flood of infos (which I totally get). Just find your favorite game mode and have fun and feel free to add me for a daily game.

Regarding ingame chat: Out of my 100ish games I almost only had good expierences, even found nice people with common interests besides chess. The only time some guy demanded quicker moves from me was actually one of the most fun expierences here since after I answered him that he should blitz then, went on to win the game after a hastly blunder by him and teased him with getting 3 queens instead for the quick checkmate just as a little payback. 

So you don't have to worry about that most of the time, the same goes for resigning too late. Especially on beginners level there is always the chance of a game changing blunder, I won some games because of that and lost some games because a opponent wouldn't resign a "lost" position but I couldn't finish it.

 For a lot of people the game is indeed a "fast" thing. Maybe that's the way young people play chess now. Me, I prefer games with 3-day moves. 

I never watch streaming instructional content. I study mainly by printing out the games of players I admire, setting up my chess board and playing out those games with a nice glass of wine in my hand.

IMBacon said the forum is toxic, and I agree 1000 percent. 

I've posted a similar post about chess anxiety on reddit a while ago. I got some great answers and tips. It might help you too.

https://www.reddit.com/r/chess/comments/i62qph/chess_anxiety/

All the best!