Super demotivated by losses, how to help

spending a few days in the 900 league i just observed that the 900 league is much better than it was

a few weeks ago, full  of "new" members that play better than the 1100 league

I do not think you can stay at 1000 for ever IF you play rapid and IF you take the time to THINK on every move.

At one point IF you learn one opening for white and one for black you should be able to win "easily" 20 games in a row against everyone under 1250 on this site.

Because they ALL blunder at one point in their first 30-35 move.

Of course to beat them all you need to be a real 1350 elo at least because they are mostly ALL 1200-1250 ELO.

Can it be done in 3 months by playing 4 games every day or in 3 years that depend on you! learn some tactics and some end game too.

I play here and on 3 other chess sites since a very long time and if i played 1% of my games against cheaters i would be surprised.

My little brother that is maybe 1400 elo at most did start an account a few months back here and he played 20 (30 min) games in a row against 1280 and less players,half the players were around 1100,the other around 900.

He did win the 20 games in a row and he got to 1330 and he stop playing here because he had to think on each move to win here but on li... he can win easily by playing by reflex against 1525 player.

He has that bad habit! of playing by reflex.

Here he has to work for a win.

You do not have to use the pairing system you can go to the window where you can chose to play against anyone that is available to play by clicking on the dot that represent the player.

I think it can be easily done in 5 days by playing 8 (30 min games )per day.

By choosing your opponents in the right window for that.

A real 1500 elo can easily win 30 (30 min game) in a row here against 99% of the player rated under 1450 here.

That will give him 1450 here...he still have 10 games to get to 1500 here...

i only played 10 min games where i blunder a lot, due to time constraints and inexperience ...At 30 min games there are too many people waisting other's time...Some probably  choose to go for a shower in the middle of the game...

I did it once.  I only created the account for my nephew to read articles and look at chess.com videos that I thought would help him.  He's since lost interest in chess, and I forgot the account password so I can't really play on it anymore.  Regardless, before I let the account go I got to 1500 fairly easily.  Chess is just not always easy.  For example, let's say you see a free pawn.  You take it, then bam, you lose.  Why?  Because he baited you with a pawn to gain a decisive advantage.  In most cases, it's best to just take the pawn, only while keeping in mind, if there are any tactics.  Even that said, you might spend minutes trying to figure out if you can take the pawn or not, then take the pawn, but forgot to look at your king, who was set up for a support mate with knight and queen.  Chess is not easy.  You have to learn to multitask, holding other things in your memory banks while processing other moves.  Chess is a memory game.  It will improve your memory, and make you sharp.  But just like anything else, you have to put in the work, and just because you lose to someone who is lower-rated, don't just think, oh he must have cheated.  Just treat it like a normal loss, and let chess.com take care of the rest.

The new lessons are very good.  I did about 10 of them so far and they will work wonders for a beginner.  It seems like chess.com is trying to make it possible for a chess player to just get a diamond membership and not have to buy any chess books.  There are a lot of things available now with a diamond membership.  I would consider getting a diamond membership, for any beginner, and start with the lessons.  

does anyone understand how this guy got to be 2000 at two cathegories  in 9 days and plays as 800 at 10 min games? https://www.chess.com/live?#g=5097187287 

https://www.chess.com/member/someonecoachmeisuck

Rub some frickin dirt on it you weenie.

What are you twelve and still being breastfed by your momma?

He hasn't played any rapid or bullet, his start rating was 2000.

You're supposed to continue winning or losing until you reach players that are playing at your rating level. Once that happens, you will have around 50% chances of winning or losing. Then you must study to reach the next rating class. 

indeed...he started very high and lost 15 games in a raw...i saw that now, then he took some lessons on reti opening i never took any lessons ...

You just need to play as fresh as possible your first 10 games and you settle in a higher cathegory where you'll find simillarly good players as in a lower one. I just found a guyt that plays in teh 800 league since april and he's really good but he plays all the time, both when he's fresh or very tired so he win some days and lose others....  I think also  there are many more that  have multiple  accounts that this site is able to admit publicly.You can't have a total of  1.5 million players and at the same time , new 45 000  daily registrations  for years...

Duplicate accounts are certainly a part of it, but the 45000 daily registration was only for a short period of time when chess blew up on livestreaming platforms. Now it's down to 32000, and before the quarantine it was 17000. Not that unrealistic.

at 17000 it takes 88 days to get to 1.5 million, ...and this site is here for 25 years....

This site was created in 2007, actually

40 million accounts / 4813 days

8310 accounts per day

i think i saw twice that there are playing 1.5 million players every day , and a statistic of 5 million games per day.

Yes? That's not very unreasonable.