Chatting during chess

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It appears to me that the game messaging system here is GEICO, too caveman. Disable chat? Why not just have a delete comment function? Disable chat seems so theromonuclear war like and not a fine example of coding. My usual tack is to view the other players profile for a clue to an intro. GG & GL is for wimps especially when you really want to to stove his/her head in with your queen ;-) What I don't like, hate, loathe is to say a few lines and have them/the other player not respond and have that missive linger there the whole of the game like a onus from your mother to clean your room. The angst is claustrophobic! Disable chat is immature in my opinion and the squad here, Erik and company should update this.

 Occasionally when I play a game, my opponent is unfortunate in that he/she has a crisis of some kind which forces him/her to give up on the game and lose on time. This is an unsatisfying way to win and I genuinely mean it when I wish someone good luck at the beginning of the game.

In October, I was inflicted with the h1n1 virus and was rushed to the hospital where I went into a coma for several months. Needless to say, I lost many games here because of that and I doubt my opponents felt any sort of satisfaction from their victories.

Anyhoo--I always wish my opponent good luck and say hello. If they don't like it, I don't view it as any sort of character flaw on my part.

When I win a queen, I always say haha.

I find it really annoying when people disable chat when they accept a challenge.  I think it's rude and anti-social.  If some can't be bothered to say "good luck" or "hello" before a game I'd rather not play them.  I know that this is the internet and people revel in their anonymity but I personally won't accept the absence basic human interaction.  If I want that I'll just play my computer.

It is kinda funky when you post a greeting and there is no response. After a few moves I just change the box to "moves". What's really bizarre is playing a "friendly" (unrated) and they "hang up".

Maybe we're all just too chatty?

You don't come across as the type who would do anything as a service to anyone.  That's quite a hang-up you've got about simple greetings.  I'll bet there aren't many people who meet you in person for the first time and say "it's nice to meet you" who don't later regret the remark.

I disable; bt not with frnds

Wow, what set set you off on this guy?

When I play pool matches I say play well and may all the rolls go my way. 

I think the reason I generally don't say anything in online chess is because I started on yahoo a long time ago and the "chat" was the part I didn't like.

You know the part where thy call u dumb etc etc...

I just meant that someone who says "nice to meet you" and holds out their hand to shake might end up receiving a lecture on how what they had just uttered was only a meaningless social gesture, and would end up being sorry they said anything at all.  Just like when people type in an innocent "Greetings and good luck" and are either rebuffed or ignored, and then are sorry they didn't just leave the message box blank.

Well-known, I am not sure. I don't know anyone here who says 'good luck' before a chess game as if it were a formula race. I'd much rather hear something that makes sense like: "Have a good game" or "have fun." Politeness doesn't necessarily have to be something completely meaningless.

I'm still the new guy here, so I've got few enough games I can quickly go back through them.  It looks like I've played against 18 different opponents on turn-based thus far (most of them in 2 games each, since I've been focusing on tournaments).  So here's a tiny non-scientific survey.

I start out every single first game against a new opponent with "Hello!  Greetings from the Upper Peninsula of Michigan."  And at the end of that I usually tack on something like "Good luck in the tournament" or "Good chess to you!" or something that I hope will come across as friendly.  Usually I make the first comment in the message box for the game, but in a couple instances there was already a greeting awaiting me when I first accessed the game.

Of the 18 players I've faced, 6 made no response at all.  The other 12 responded in one way or another, including:

• Greetings from Brussels
• Hello from Northeast Indiana.....
• HELLO!!
• Hi, Nampa, Idaho - 20 miles southwest of Boise
• greetings to u also-- have a good game
• hi from romania, good luck!
• Greetings from Denver, CO. Good luck.
• hello

I agree with Afaf that even in turn-based I would find it a little inconvenient to swap messages during the entire game, unless maybe it was a particular player I knew or hit it off with right away.  However, in 3 or 4 games my opponent and I exchanged a few sentences during during the first 3 or 4 or 5 moves and then settled down and played the rest of the game without any more messages until the end.  I like that, swapping a couple sentences at the beginning, even if it's just to mention that their town looks cool from above in Google Earth.

So if I continue receiving nice replies from 2/3 of my opponents, it's easily worth continuing to issue my initial greetings for each new opponent.  Even if it is just a "shallow formality" and I run the risk of encountering the occasional bad apple.

--Cystem 

I've only played one person who disables chat.  fjtorresr. And he event sent me a trophy once so that's cool. 

Do you think some people are really robots, living among us?

Maybe I should make a distinction, too, between the chat bar at the bottom of the screen and the message box to the right of the game board-- I have the bottom chat bar disabled all the time because I'm picky about cutting down on the size of my browser window.  My comments in this thread thus far have been about the message box.

It's a tiny bit corny but whenever someone says "hello/greetings from Upper peninsula of Michigan", I always respond with "hello Upper peninsula of Michigan" or "please convey my regards to Upper peninsula of Michigan" which is such a giveaway of my closet geektardness.

That can't come up too often . . . there are only about 5 of us here, and 2 of them haven't been seen since the last blizzard . . . 

As to the response, introductions are a good place for geeky jokes!

--Cystem

Chat , I can take it or leave it but I am never rude unless someone is rude to me. In tournament games leave off the chat during the game, ofcourse. I am speaking of OTB tournament games.

It seems some people dont like to be civil and are even annoyed by those who do make an attempt to be civil. Such people have a "problem" imo. I see more and more of them irl though so I guess finding them on the internet is only natural.

Ok, this is a conversation I have going right now "chatting during chess"... Didn't even start with the hello or good luck to which I've grown accustomed. I have never played him before and have no idea what he's talking about. Schizophrenia?

S: I suck at 960, I'm going to try to think like this australian Sheerwater played

S: I think white often has an advantage.

S: that's why I lost so bad..right?

AfafBouardi: I have no idea what you're talking about.

S: what's morocco like?

S: please tell me if you're going to leave the board indefinitely

AfafBouardi: You mean if I'm going to have lunch or get some sleep?

S: 1:56 in NC,usa but yeah.

AfafBouardi: You're quite high maintenance.

S: good move, but not altogether the truth.

S: truth is what i like :)

S: i know what ur thinking

S: what is a 'good' chance?

S: to u I mean

AfafBouardi: Closer to what I'm thinking is...he seems to be speaking in English...

S: I like people from all over the world in my heart which is in an english 'frame'

S: I'm loving chess.com

AfafBouardi: Yes, it is a nice website. I like it too.

S: your bio says ur occupation is a sabatuer...

S: does that carry over into your chess play

AfafBouardi: Not at all.

S: 960

AfafBouardi: I think I'm going to take that indefinite break