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Not as much irrelevant as trying to find and make friends on a chess site.
Your username is actually Anonymous Dragon.
I'm crying now.
TBH I don't know if that highschool sweetheart girl should have been "kicked to the curb." People have to learn lessons. Days get lonelier and lonelier as you get older. Wonder if he'll regret his decision. Oh well.
I was just about to ask a question about this, then I saw your username. And the topic of this thread really reminds me of her. NO
It's not even about chess. I came back home today and opened my computer and there is was, the notification, this had never happened before, you know i've only been there for 6 months max but now the first one gone the worst is yet to come.
Jun 9, 2021
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#71
Nope . You are honestly stupid if you couldn't get my point even though I have clarified it multiple times .
I am not here trying to "make " new friends . I was just seeking advice on how to cope up with loss of people whom I had befriended just naturally by being together and spending time with .
And even after making myself so clear , if you post irrelevant comments like titled players not being intelligent enough to understand difference between engines and databases , girls unwilling to talk because their dms are flooded with messages , you are not worth being a part of the discussion .
So I am blocking you since I don't want your lame comments on my thread anymore . (Even though I generally like arguments but am not in a mood to fight , atleast in this thread)
Jun 9, 2021
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#73
MisterLoco76 wrote:
TBH I don't know if that highschool sweetheart girl should have been "kicked to the curb." People have to learn lessons. Days get lonelier and lonelier as you get older. Wonder if he'll regret his decision. Oh well.
I can't really take sides . If I was him , I would be stuck in a dilemma. I would want to accept her back since I love her so much . But at the same time if I accepted her back it would be messing up my self esteem
Jun 9, 2021
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#74
WoodenSwordMinecraft wrote:
I was just about to ask a question about this, then I saw your username. And the topic of this thread really reminds me of her. NO
What's with my username? And it reminds you of whom?
Jun 9, 2021
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#75
Anonymous_Dragon a écrit :
MisterLoco76 wrote:
TBH I don't know if that highschool sweetheart girl should have been "kicked to the curb." People have to learn lessons. Days get lonelier and lonelier as you get older. Wonder if he'll regret his decision. Oh well.
I can't really take sides . If I was him , I would be stuck in a dilemma. I would want to accept her back since I love her so much . But at the same time if I accepted her back it would be messing up my self esteem
Not really,i did that with someone 20 years ago ( she was in love with another person and completely left me for a few weeks) and she is still with me since 20 years and she is a great person! Everyone can make mistake and learn from it;you just have to not be too possessive and if she never come back well it's her choice and life will not end there!
When it happen we were together since a few years! And i knew she would come back because i knew she would not easily find someone better 
This is what love is:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LSGl3d4KOMk
Jun 9, 2021
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#77
Marie-AnneLiz wrote:
Anonymous_Dragon a écrit :
MisterLoco76 wrote:
TBH I don't know if that highschool sweetheart girl should have been "kicked to the curb." People have to learn lessons. Days get lonelier and lonelier as you get older. Wonder if he'll regret his decision. Oh well.
I can't really take sides . If I was him , I would be stuck in a dilemma. I would want to accept her back since I love her so much . But at the same time if I accepted her back it would be messing up my self esteem
Not really,i did that with someone 20 years ago ( she was in love with another person and completely left me for a few weeks) and she is still with me since 20 years and she is a great person! Everyone can make mistake and learn from it;you just have to not be too possessive and if she never come back well it's her choice and life will not end there!
When it happen we were together since a few years! And i knew she would come back because i knew she would not easily find someone better
This is what love is:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LSGl3d4KOMk
I am so glad you both are together again
Jun 9, 2021
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#78
B1ZMARK wrote:
Do not be sad that theyre gone. Be happy that it happened.
Easier said than done 😞
Jun 9, 2021
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#79
Sting "This song was as much a hymn to my newfound freedom as it was an antidote to the brooding issues of control and surveillance that haunted 'Every Breath You Take.' Perhaps the highest compliment you can pay to a partner is 'I don't own you - you're free.' If you were to try to possess them in the obvious way, you could never appreciate them in the way that really counts. There are too many prisons in the world already."
I understand, but everyone has to get to the fact that friends won't stay forever, they'll come and go, so don't get to some friends you meet, then when they'll move on you'll just feel heartbroken, the best way to not get too attached to your friends is to always stay socially active, AKA Be an extrovert, then you'll always be making friends, and if one decides to move on you won't feel that bad because you have a lot of friends.
Hi guys , I don't think this is a thing that has been talked about much .
This site has millions of users . Most probably haven't explored this site beyond playing chess. But many others have . We join clubs , we engage in blogs and forums , we make new friends. We talk with them , get to know them better and become close . And over the course of time many of us get emotionally attached to the friends we make here . Everything is fine and good until one of your close buddies leave the site. I have been occasionally using this site since the last two years . And I have been using this account since last 9 months . And even in these 9 months , I have lost countless number of close friends . One of my closest friends right now at this moment is probably going to be inactive for a year . All these events have taken a serious toll on my emotional health . But it also makes me think about others . I am sure there are many more who get very emotional when a friend leaves . There are people who have been on this site for 10 years and more . I wonder how do you guys deal with this sadness? How do you bear the pain of losing a close friend ?
It's stupid that we get attached to people we never meet, but I feel sad whenever I see a closed account in general. Only closed "inactive" though, as I don't feel bad for the cheaters!
dude u dont have feelings? yes it is bad when they get closed but also when friends close we feel bad
Did you just not read my comment, or?
i read all comment i mean why wont we become sad when our friends leave?
Because we have never met them in real life... so it is stupid. Why do we feel sad when someone leaves when we never me them in real life?
Just because we haven't met them in real life doesn't mean they are any less. Agreed that online friendships mostly aren't as strong as real life ones , but there are cases where you get to know someone online and bond with them very closely . So losing them is going to affect you as much as losing a real life friend
I worked with a guy that was high school sweethearts with his girlfriend. They both got into one of those online role playing games. 6 months later she left him for some guy she never met, but was "in love" with. Some level 47 wizard (some thing you never forget). She came back 3 months later apologizing, and wanting him back. He rightly kicked her to the curb. All these online "friendships" "romances" etc. are a bunch of bunk. Its loneliness, feelings of inadequacy, or just plain ole wanting attention. Sure we connect with the rare online person/friendship, but for the other 99+%? Turn off the PC and go outside and enjoy life.
That's a tragic story and shouldn't happen to anybody . And it's the 1percent of the people I am talking about here in my post