This being said, I too have some people in my friendlist I deeply respect.
If they ever leave chess.com, I just wish them the best and hope they are doing well. We all have our lifes in the real world too.
Dealing with emotions on this site
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Tamtaramtamtam wrote:
A wise orangutan once told me it is best not to get emotionally attached with online friends.
Wait I'm not an orangutan....oh apologies! You're talkin' about someone else.... I told the exact same thing to someone else...yeah @Free-de-la-h0ya. I told him not to attach any kinda relation/emotion with online people like a million times. But that Piece of crap never understands.....
Jun 13, 2021
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Mr-Mudd wrote:
Internet is not real life.
The Internet is real man... I dunno.
Ah, nice to see some human emotion on the forums here.
Well OP, things end, people move apart, but you remember why you were important to each other and how you helped each other.That's just how life is.
Not gonna tell you to not get attached or anything, cause that's easier said than done. (For normal people at least)
Take care. . .
Jun 13, 2021
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MayaUpadhya wrote:
I understand, but everyone has to get to the fact that friends won't stay forever, they'll come and go, so don't get to some friends you meet, then when they'll move on you'll just feel heartbroken, the best way to not get too attached to your friends is to always stay socially active, AKA Be an extrovert, then you'll always be making friends, and if one decides to move on you won't feel that bad because you have a lot of friends.
Good idea
Jun 13, 2021
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#90
Marie-AnneLiz wrote:
Sting "This song was as much a hymn to my newfound freedom as it was an antidote to the brooding issues of control and surveillance that haunted 'Every Breath You Take.' Perhaps the highest compliment you can pay to a partner is 'I don't own you - you're free.' If you were to try to possess them in the obvious way, you could never appreciate them in the way that really counts. There are too many prisons in the world already."
Hmm
Jun 13, 2021
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#91
marqumax wrote:
Break something. It helps
Then my mom would break me
Jun 13, 2021
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#92
Abhinav0121 wrote:
Ah, nice to see some human emotion on the forums here.
Well OP, things end, people move apart, but you remember why you were important to each other and how you helped each other.That's just how life is.
Not gonna tell you to not get attached or anything, cause that's easier said than done. (For normal people at least)
Take care. . .
Yep . Thanks
Same to you 🙂
Jun 13, 2021
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#93
Free-de-la-h0ya wrote:
Dragon brou, Well now you understand my pain..😂
Yes. I believe you have become stronger by now
Jun 14, 2021
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Mr-Mudd wrote:
AunTheKnight wrote:
Mr-Mudd wrote:
Internet is not real life.
The Internet is real man... I dunno.
The internet is portrayed imagination. The interface is real, but not what we emotionally project onto it.
I know. I was joking.
Regarding older members and older aged members: We lived much of our lives long before there was an internet. We learned how to make real friends IRL. You are young. You grew up online. Older people know better than to attach to people online, many of whom have created false personas.
The old me would have said get a life! But I am trying to understand young people better. You grew up with a view of the world and relationships via an electronic device. This is something I can understand but I also need to preach a bit. It can be a dangerous thing to put so much weight on internet relationships. Not just from a physical danger like some creep finding out where you live but from an emotional standpoint. Trusting identities here can lead to some painful realities about people. I have personally come across some serious pretenders who get a thrill tricking people into trusting them just to mock them later. This happens on many social sites even when skype is available. Fake identities do not always show through even on video chats. Even your name says anonymous. Think about it.
Jun 14, 2021
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FirstMarch wrote:
Chances are that your friends don't really care about these things as much as you. It's just a website that you play chess on. If you want lasting friends that won't leave I suggest going outside and meeting real people.
Folks . I honestly don't know what the problem is here . Are you people too dumb to interpret and understand my point correctly or was I unable to express them properly ? Did I at any point mention that I am searching for long lasting friends online ?
Jun 14, 2021
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Festerthetester wrote:
The old me would have said get a life! But I am trying to understand young people better. You grew up with a view of the world and relationships via an electronic device. This is something I can understand but I also need to preach a bit. It can be a dangerous thing to put so much weight on internet relationships. Not just from a physical danger like some creep finding out where you live but from an emotional standpoint. Trusting identities here can lead to some painful realities about people. I have personally come across some serious pretenders who get a thrill tricking people into trusting them just to mock them later. This happens on many social sites even when skype is available. Fake identities do not always show through even on video chats. Even your name says anonymous. Think about it.
Yes I know . I am aware that people can fake their identity. And I am aware of the ways I can ensure someone is being truthful about who they are .
And yes you are right . It's important not to put too much weight into online relationships. I did that in the past and I am regretting it now . I will try my best not to do it in future
A wise orangutan once told me it is best not to get emotionally attached with online friends.