Do us girls have a psychological edge when playing with men?
When playing with men's what???
Do us girls have a psychological edge when playing with men?
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It's actually going to be a disavantage: men will play harder to not be defeated by a woman.
This has been seen even in real war, where the enemy soldiers are less likely to surrender to female soldiers.
Bikf00t wrote:
mendez_trump wrote:
being an attractive male, I feel I make females uncomftorable when playing. I feel like they let me win just because they hope I will ask them out on a date
Who's the guy in your profilepic then?
hahaha
Ivana Humpalot would be a distraction for sure & a candidate for mating quickly 
Yeah baby!!!
Depends on the man. In some cases yes, but for most of the time, I don't think it would have any impact. For me I just think of the player as a player, not as who they are. Otherwise, whenever me and my friend play in a tournament (as was the case recently) if I thought of him as my friend I wouldn't be able to beat him without feeling bad.
Also, in blitz or bullet in particular, do you really think I have the time to stare at you and care what you look like? Most of the time when I play a blitz game, I sit down, smile, shake hands with the person, and then don't so much as look up at them again until I the game is done. Precious seconds could be on the line here.
Also, as plutonia pointed out, it could actually cause more harm than good. Most men don't want to get their ego crushed by a women. If anything, they want to impress her with an exceptionally strong game. Last year, for example, I found myself playing an exceptionally strong and quite attractive girl at the chess tournament my high school was going to. Rather than let that intimidate me, I used that as motivation (after all, you gotta do whatever you can to win.)
I put the idea in my head that if I dazzled her with my ultimately superior play, perhaps she would take enough interest in me to go on a date with me. Obviously this was complete nonsense, and I knew that just as well as she did, but in the heat of battle, it did just what it was supposed to: motivate me like hell to win this game no matter what!) believe it or not, this crazy trick actually worked. Despite the fact that she was at least equal in strength to me (and most likely greater, I am not ashamed to admit, I was able to somehow pull off a win, which allowed me to qualify for the next round!
I could see lots of ways this trick could backfire though, and I was never really someone who enjoyed psychological chess, so my advice is this: always play the game, not the man (or woman!)
Dr. Lasker advised to play agains player, not the chess board though.
Fkey wrote:
I would agree that some men seem to make much greater effort to beat one in a rematch, after you have beaten them in one game.
However, saying :
"You are not much of a man are you ?" to them, probably does not help ?!
AlisonHart wrote:
I wore a low-cut top to a blitz tournament once with this very idea in mind...............the strong players still crushed me, but they did it with a slightly larger smile than usual......my boobs and I went home a defeated trio.
The boob pair is only a half pawn advantage.
mendez_trump wrote:
being an attractive male, I feel I make females uncomftorable when playing. I feel like they let me win just because they hope I will ask them out on a date
Yeah the chess struggles continue man.
Sad situation indeed.
If only women were not sexist.
I am surpised you even use your real picture on chess.com.
Most men don't even use there real picture simply because of all the stalker mails from strange women who treat chess.com as some sort of match making site.
Feminism is a red herring for women of power who try to corrupt the very few liberty's men have left out of envy.
The reason women are doing this embarks on a study which was done by Sigmund Freud.
Sigmund Freud concluded this female psychosexual development is based on penisenvious.
Or in crude lay-mens terms penis envy.
In Freudian theory, the penis envy stage begins the transition from an attachment to the mother to competition with the mother for the attention, recognition and affection of the father.
The parallel reaction of a boy's realization that women do not have a penis is castration anxiety.
You see what is happening here is pretty simple!
- The child develops her first sexual impulses towards her mother.
- The girl realizes that she is not physically equipped to have a heterosexual relationship with her mother, since she does not have a penis.
- She desires a penis, and the power that it represents. This is described as penis envy. She sees the solution as obtaining her father's penis.
- She develops a sexual desire for her father.
- The girl blames her mother for her apparent castration (what she sees as punishment by the mother for being attracted to the father) assisting a shift in the focus of her sexual impulses from her mother to her father.
- Sexual desire for her father leads to the desire to replace and eliminate her mother.
- The girl identifies with her mother so that she might learn to mimic her, and thus replace her.
- The child anticipates that both desires will incur punishment.
- The girl employs the defence mechanism of displacement to shift the object of her sexual desires from her father to men in general.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Penis_envy
So you see what is happening in this forum has already been studied by Sigmund Freud the OP of this forum is asking a question which stems from her transition from a girl to a women.
Which is apparent by the use of "her title words".
She said do us "girls have a psychological edge when playing with "men"
She did not say do us "girls have a psychological edge when playing with "boys"
She did not say do us "women have a psychological edge when playing with "men"
Thus, the OP's question is a neutral question which does not have a right or wrong solution.
A person could answer the question both with a yes or with a no.
The reasoning of why she is doing this type of question is so no one is offended or upset.
The desire which has shifted to men in general does not want to offend. Which means if she used a question with a correct/incorrect format than the people who get the answer wrong could get offended or upset they was wrong.
As you can see this is very important people do not screw this up!
When you answer the OP you should start with a Yes or with a No!
If you do not than you may upset her internal development which would result in her being angry.
The result of her anger will be pushed on to the father which will cause an envy which will result in her joining a Feminism group.
The reason why she will join this type of group is to try and get revenge and take away the last few liberty's which men have left due to her penisenvious.
Furthermore, if you are a man and you answer the OP's question it is in your best interest to say yes or no than give an explaination after of why you feel that way..
If you put only yes or only no with no explaination.
The OP will accept your answer; however, she will not reciprocate because she will believe you are a dumb man.
In closing I will now answer the question.
Do us girls have a psychological edge when playing with men?
Yes, The reason I believe they have a psychological edge is because most girls have pretty eyes.
Sapphire blue eyes which look as beautiful as the ocean.
Emeral green eyes which simple take your breathe away.
Brown eyes which look like golden quartz.
Have you ever seen a golden quartz?
It is gorgeous in every way.
Yeah I lose every game.
How to focus when something so beautiful is sitting across from you?
I think it is impossible.
stuzzicadenti escribió:
I think girls do have an advantage. If anything, I will slightly underestimate most attractive women at the chess board. Sometimes that has ended in disaster for me. I wouldn't call myself a sexist just a realist.
I'm sure you realize those two phrases are contradictory.
thinks women are dumb.
forgets to be smart.
*facepalm*
Dec 20, 2015
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Who knows, in OTB games with girls from a range of 5 years younger than me till 5 years older than me my score is not that impressive. I think +5=1-4 or so. I did beat WIM Anne Haast in an OTB rapid game when she was already 2300, though.
you were pretty and playing otb with me, i would be more kind and evn let u win
Omg!!! wot a genitalman!
You are so biased. True, some people go easy on women, but women also go easy on men. You have NO psychological edge when playing with (most)men
don't forget the guys who would shoot themselves before losing to a bird, no real advantage to the gazongas there.
playing someone with a head cold has a bigger psychological impact.