losing is pretty sweet, especially when you learn nothing from it.
Fear of losing
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CaptainJoe wrote:
I have fear of destroying own things.It happens when I lost chess game then I must destroye something.Last time,I lost against my friend who is very strong player.I destroyed guitar.
Things which I destroyed because of chess: TV,Computer,mobitel,4 pictures,vacuum cleaners,Chess clock,the door,wardrobe and guitar.
Do you have any VDOs of this???
Funny, I'm afraid of winning.
Don't fear losing. If you fear losing, then you don't keep your head clear and you start to second guess your moves which is a good thing to do to a degree, but not at the expense of being sure of your self. Every move you make, you should be confident that it's the right one. And WHEN you do lose, oh well. Learn from your mistakes. Go back and see what stupid mistakes you made, what simple mistakes you made and so on and so forth. When we lose, we are given a chance to study our weaknesses. Study your games and take your follies to heart.
The Joker
hansaram wrote:
No pain, no gain.
Besides that, losing a game of chess is not equivalent to losing a life - and even if it were... I'd expect that we'd all have much shorter lifespans.
May 17, 2009
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fear of losing? No. I HATE losing though. It is great motivation for going and studying a variation which I am obviously having trouble with.
For some people the fear of losing can be a good thing. Some people thrive under pressure and think quicker. But then again, "some" is a key word in the sentence.
If you lose more than you win it most often means that you are playing people who are a higher caliber of player than yourself...which means that you will learn more from the game and be able to test yourself. I cant stand playing people who I know I will win against and would rather be given a hard core challenge against a superior opponent.
Tactical_Knightmare wrote:
...which means that you will learn more from the game ...
Which means that you will have more opportunity to learn from the game.
Whether you will learn or not is not certain, and is only evinced by whether your game (and rating) improves over time.
True Grobe, true.
Can't you just cheat
Based upon your game history, you have been playing a lot of the French defense. i can understand now why you have a fear. change your opening repertoire.
The French Defense chess opening is good for surprise value. The main reason why chess GMs do not use it regularly because black gets a passive middlegame.
Also i would not trust a chess opening having anything to do with France. Everyone knows that chess is a military game. Looking back at history, the French military was really passive
For example, in World war One, France was conquered by their neighbor Germany. Did they learn their lesson? Of course not. A couple years later France was conquered again in World War 2. Who took them over? Not other then the same country Germany. It was up to the Amencans to save their French croissants from the Germans.
Against 1. e4, I would suggest playing a more sophisticated chess opening that is American made. It won't let you down like the French. Maybe something like the Marshall Attack variation of the Ruy lopez. It has been shown to equalize easily. Magnus just played it against Karjackin.
There are a lot of things that France has "stolen" but claimed to be their own. Such as the Mona Lisa, the French bulldog, French toast, French horn, French letters, French Fries, French press, French dressing, French manicure, French braid, etc.
I would not be surprised if France "stole" this chess opening as well when in fact, it really had a "Made in Taiwan" label and some French dude ripped it off.
Here is an oxymoron: French Army
Don't be afraid of something so trivial as losing a chess match. You can't win them all - that's impossible.
I'm probably going to lose one or two of my matches right now - but I'm not the least bit concerned because for one, points are points - they'll come and they'll go; and second, I learn more from the matches I lose - I see what and where I went wrong with, what my opponent did well in, and what I can do next time to do better. Chess is a learning and growing experience - you're going to fall sometimes, even many times... but that should only make you a stronger chessplayer - learn from your experience. If you lose a match, maybe you can even talk with your opponent afterwards to see if they can help you analyze that match, to see what they were thinking and learn from it.
We're all students of chess...