GG after Game?

Am I missing something?  

After each match, I offer a "good game" or "thanks for the game" but rarely do I get a reply except for the usual "such and such has left the chat".

I know what you thinking, or at least what might have crossed your mind.  I'm not one of those players that trash talk during a match.  Although I haven't ran across many, there have been a few players that acted as if they were in 9th grade.

Also, I offer this sincerely and whether I've won or lost.  It's virtual good sportmanship, in my mind, just like a handshake.

So, I ask you...  Am I missing something?  Am I somehow, unintentionally breaking some unwritten rule of chess etiquette?

Jason

Well, unwritten rules would be just like birdlaw. And birdlaw, my friend, is not something to mess with.

Jason, clearly the problem resides with them, and not with you.  Try not to let it bother you.

 I think some people may not even look at their chat window, or maybe just don't like to chat, even if it's a simple 'gg'. Remember that if you say "Good game", a lot of users don't speak English, and won't understand.

Not quite sure what birdlaw is, so I'll take your advice and not mess with it.  :-)

How do you make "good game" look sincere?

Both good points.  Not paying attention or seeing the chat window?  Hadn't thought about that.  That could be it.  It's really not a big deal, I just figured it was worth a post and discussion.

With regards to your second point, I do take that into account (the language barrier) but I'm talking about player after player in the US, Canada and UK.

Thanks for your response.

Valid question and good point.  That's why I sometimes offer only "Thanks for the game".  I want to show my appreciation for the game, without sounding like I'm being sarcastic or such...

Yeah, "good game", or, "gg", pisses off a lot of people. There have been countless threads about it. Strange, I know.

The problem is, their pride is hurt after losing, so they don't take well to it.  Sorry about that :-)

@trysts  It does seem strange to me.  That is what I suspected and was wondering about.

You should read some of those long threads we've had on the forums about it. Some people just take it as an insult. Just reading those threads actually made me change from typing "gg", or "thank you" after I've won, to typing nothing until they say it first. Of course, I always type "gg", or "thank you", after I've lost.

Yes, this is one of the perplexingly huge heated topics for discussion around here...possibly on occasion as vehement as the "resign/don't resign" hornet's nest...

I'll take a look at those.  That might be the best way to go.  Perception is reality and if a gg etc. is misconstrued or perceived as an insult, that certainly is not conveying what I intended.

Communication over chat is definitely different than in person.  You can't read facial expressions, you can't hear voice inflection, etc...  

I was going to say the only sure way not to insult someone is to lose, but then AndyClifton reminded me of how people get insulted if you don't lose the way they want you to

sometimes it's just ignored because of apathy or laziness to reply "gg" or because of willingness to play more chess by clicking start game and the challenge being quickly accepted

anyone who says "GG" to me get's a fist to the throat.  however, "gg" is perfectly acceptable.

Keep this in mind.  After a OTB game and you say "good game" and shake hands youll get the same back.  But in an online game you for the most part get no response.  Chalk it up to the annonymity of the internet.  The people that ignore yoou onlne are the same people that will say good game in person. 

Sometimes it's ignored, because of rogue chipmonks entering the house, as well. And what about ducks? Sometimes an insecure duck waddles through the living room. We just can't expect that our opponent's homes are as duck-proof as our own.

^lol wat