Ask yourself with each move--can I create a bigger threat than he is making against me?
If he attacks a bishop and you can attack a queen then he will most often have to respond to you. (You have to be careful to not hang pieces while doing this). Likewise be aware of pure counter-attacks where you each have a valid attack.
You will learn by doing and seeing where you can do this at...it is no different than seeing combinations--they are there and once you first start to see the chances to do so you will see them easier and easier.
(That would be the easy way out I was hoping for.)
It seems I am always on the defensive, trying to keep from losing something (usually because of my blunders but not always.) I am not an aggressive player and I want to learn how to be.
What do you suggest? What books? What software? What transformation of my state of mind?
How did you all learn to attack and not just try to defend?
stwils