Quitting in my definition means leaving or abandoning something permanently so I somewhat misinterpreted what you meant. I do take my breaks from the game and its not like chess is the only entertainment I have.
How do you overcome fear of losing rating?
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If Covid allows it, go and play official over the board tournaments. Especially team matches. You'll get a new perspective.
MegaGamer15 wrote:
MyNameIsNotBuddy wrote:
Also, chess.com ratings can be inaccurate.
Really? How so?
Well, say some guy with a FIDE rating of about 2000 or something comes onto chess.com for the first time, and then he just starts wrecking a bunch of people until he reaches his proper level. People interpret the advanced, intermediate and beginner starting levels different ways, so some person who's not as good could think their advanced, or some more advanced person could think that they really fall under the intermediate category because they aren't titled. There is not a consistent playing strength with the people I play against.
Jun 9, 2021
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I call myself a coward who tries to protect his rating with no sense of honor.
it works:
Jun 9, 2021
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GBTGBA wrote:
I notice OP didn’t play any variants like 3 checks, KOH, Crazyhouse. If you don’t care about those ratings, perhaps you can play them instead.
Yeah I generally focus on regular and 960... and then goof around on the other ones. I try to stay over 1000 in all categories though.
i think you just shouldn't lose rating'
StormCentre3 wrote:
@Mega_Gamer15 -
Seems a classic case - you really don’t enjoying playing chess ... do you?
Give up the hobby now and save the future headaches. You’ve had an average typical run. There was a time you enjoyed playing the game, but it seems you’ve fallen into all the “rating” hype and can no longer smell the roses.
Perhaps in the future the allure and beauty may return to mind. Start afresh months or years from now. Don’t be down on yourself- this happens to the vast majority of chess players- they become discouraged and quit usually in 1/2 year.
The game is not what they imagined. Winning games proves not what was imagined, much to dismay. Losing becomes very stressful (fear of losing). Why bother.
He says he wants to play chess but he fears losing rating. So he clearly does like chess. Yesterday I was playing a FIDE master on this website and I got very nervous when I got into a completely winning position. I was scared I was gonna throw. That doesnt mean that I dont enjoy chess.
Confucius’ 7 spaces of learning
Knowing to stop — is a simple notion but difficult to practice skill.
Reflective leaders already practice the skill to a certain degree as the act of reflection itself, requires stopping. However, we can be more conscious of the notion, as knowing to stop is the first step to, and the only passage way to, higher learning, and higher awareness.
When you know to stop, you have stability When you have stability, you find tranquility When you are tranquil, you can be at ease When you are at ease, you can deliberate With deliberation, you can attain
The ratings only show you where your level of play is at, it doesn't mean anything else. If you lose, then that just means your game has flaws you can fix; if you win, then your hard work is paying off.
I've been in this site since 2014, and only last year did I break 1300 for good. In contrast, you've been here for only a few months and looks like you're already stable.
My advice, though, try playing more longer games (G30). It will help you improve better and, personally, winning them feels more satisfying because I really have to work my butt off.
Let’s address the Title of the topic - a fear of losing. Does not say things as being scared or discouraged but a real fear - such that he won’t play rated games. Trolling or not - this is quite the common occurrence and many, a great percentage of new players quit chess within a year because of similar mindsets. They get off on the wrong foot, likely with a negative lifetime perception.
Real fears exist for everyone. Sense able people avoid snakes, spiders and sharks. Chess too - if online rating worries lead to phobia.
Read Confucius post#86 for the how to
So ... I’ve instructed chess for too many to count - after school programs grades 1-12.
My 1st priority was to recognize which kids had signed up for the class as their 1st elective or ... were they there because their parents enrolled them.
At the sessions end- as many students were enthusiastic about chess and wanted to continue from groups of little interest - compared to those of high original interest. Why? Expectations. Preconceptions. Once the true nature of the board game is discovered everybody’s on equal footing. I’d ask students “do you want to be here?” If they said no - they sat in the baby- sitter isle. Often enough mid-way, those kids were the 1st setting up the board and pieces at class start with many of the original students of high enthusiasms having lost interest.
Jun 9, 2021
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#73
When I'm afraid to play for fear of losing rating points I stop playing for awhile and concentrate on studying positional chess. I also go back over my games, making sure that I immediately see where I made mistakes and know what I should have played. To rebuild my confidence I play several bots, then maybe some games on Lichess.
Jun 9, 2021
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#74
Don't worry about your ELO. Whatever it may be, you probably won't be keeping it. If you win, your ELO will increase, which means, you had nothing to worry about in the first place. If you lose, it will decrease, which means, if you really liked where you stood with your current ELO, you wouldn't have risked it by getting into a game in the first place. Now! If you draw a game, your ELO remains the same, which falls in the same outcome as a win, that is, you had nothing to worry about in the first place.
Concentrate more on the game then your ELO, and your ELO will probably increase naturally. Just a suggestion. Nothing more, nothing less.
Zinester54 wrote:
When I'm afraid to play for fear of losing rating points I stop playing for awhile and concentrate on studying positional chess. I also go back over my games, making sure that I immediately see where I made mistakes and know what I should have played. To rebuild my confidence I play several bots, then maybe some games on Lichess.
All it seems with the goal - a better rating.
Pity really.
How to convey an appreciation becomes the conundrum.
I sometimes ponder- why on earth, whatever for, would someone play a chess bot?
Sure , absolutely for training and reference, but for entertainment?
You’re sitting at home, relaxing in the easy chair. Time on your hands with a wholesome, challenging game of chess. And someone chooses to play a bot???
It’s a chess game. A competition that lasts a blip in time, designed for entertainment. Winning a bot? If you like achievement awards..
With chess there is magic in the air. Music and mathematics intertwine. Things to be seen an appreciated from any skill level.
Such a shame... to observe current trends of chess promotions with all the hype. It’s a business. $ becomes bottom line. Clever marketing tools and catch phrases. Improve that rating... yep higher still.
The spirit of Chess seems to be in hibernation. Hopefully to awaken soon.
You ask why in the world would people play bots but then give 2 reasons you believe are valid to be playing with bots? I think you answered your own question sir
And for the record I use the bots as a warm-up practice or a test to see if I'm feeling ready enough to go play live matches online, not cause "Yay I absolutely destroyed that bot, I'm so good."
Quitting is not permanent. Perhaps tomorrow a renewed interest occurs. Point is - “fear of losing” can’t be forced away or won’t happen because it’s so desired. Think of quitting as taking a break. No commitment. It’s not like a promise needs making or a contract needs signing. Only makes sense - if an activity is causing undue stress ... why continue till the root causes are discovered and understood?