How to defend?

I like the french, but in this position:

As black I struggle to find what to do, I started playing the Borg defense because this happened so often.

This even though severely underdeveloped, is very much better than the previous.

In the first position I started playing C5 which they respond with C3, and it gets worse from there after I play F6.

So how to defend?

I have tried taking and on the off chance they decide, Hey! let's take with knight on E5! Which doesn't happen, it doesn't turn out too bad.

Eventually I lose most of my games with this position.

Oh, sorry it's fixed.

IMO the advance french is easier to play for black at lower levels because black's idea is clear and fast: to pressure white's center. After they advance the pawn to e5, you can often make your next 4 moves:

c5, Nc6, Qb6, cxd

And the next moves after that possibly Ne7-f5 or g5-g4. All of these moves have the same idea, which is to pressure white's d pawn.

I show 3 white variations on move 6. Bd3, 6.Be2, and 6.a3.

e5 drives me absolutely crazy when i play white. also Nf3 or c3 is a bit irritating when my sister plays me. They say Nd2 is one of the best choices in my openings book but eh