Huge motivation problem

Last night, I lost my Black Bishop on a2 because it got trapped by b3, and for some reason, it made me especially livid.

I think I was still kinda smad and recovering from the Blue Monday (which I literally found out was a thing two days ago), but then I realised that it's my anger that had been motivating me during the past 10 or so years of playing chess.

These days I don't really get shaken by my mistakes, so I forget that I made them and thus repeat them; however, yesterday I remembered that my fury was what fueled the fire of my motivation to improve at chess. Themes can hardly be properly remembered if they don't leave you with a lasting emotional impression, and there's nothing as productive in that respect as pure, unadulterated anger.

Anyone else feel like this?

You haven't played a game here in more than three years.

Why tell us?

Ah, the somewhat common assumption... sorry for not making it clear from the outset.

I've actually been playing on Lichess for the past few years, and on ChessCube before that.

Hey, thanks for the express pep talk!

Well, you might post the actual game/position so that we can sympathize or tell you what a bonehead you were.

Good choices, they are much superior sites to this dump

you need matt foley!

...mostly because it's very clear to me what the mistakes in it were, and this ain't Game Analysis, either.

I am, however, up for a discussion about the psychological moment of the blunder. Why did I decide to get greedy and forget a tactic I successfully avoided in another recent game? Beats me, just like my opponent did.

You get another pair of bishops at the start of your next game so no need to worry about mislaying one in a game!

You are in good company. Fischer lost game 1 of the 1972 world championship match with Spassky after an ill advised Bxh2 was met by g3 trapping the bishop. 

I will motivate you...

I read yesterday that the bite of a grizzly bear can crush a bowling ball... 

More Motivation...

Don't feel too bad, Fischer took that pawn too (the other side actually but the same situation) and look how everything worked out for him. 

No, I went to the chess club today, started with black, drew, then played 1.d4 and got a Grunfeldt and played the Russian variation which I hadn't played for a couple of years, blundered and lost, so I'd dropped 1 1/2 points. And then won the next three including a Grunfeldt that I just went Bf4 and e3 in, and two Siclians with 2. ...a6..

3 1/2 out of 5 is my worst performance in a couple of months. Last three weeks it was 3-1, 4-1 and 3-1. It was terrible .... even the Stewardess chatting me up didn't help.  

Speaking of things that don't motivate me: blunders. You never know when the next one's gonna happen and why. They're just dumb oversights, for the most part. Just fell for a simple royal fork two minutes ago.

I still haven't changed my mind about chess being too punishing. I suppose there is a balance in the fact that anyone can blunder (and everyone who ever played chess already must've at some point, barring engines), but it's not balanced if your opponents make less blunders than you per game. xD

In a fighting game, unless it has combos that are virtually infinitely long, you get hit, but then you get to make at least two or three additional guesses, on average. Blundering is almost like handing your opponent a 1-hit K.O. Now, if I were Larry Christiansen, I'd probably be able to bluff my opponent out by playing really quickly, so the queen blunder wouldn't matter as much; but I'm almost always the slower player of the two in any of my games. That sucks.

....ur taking it way-WAY too seriously. and its not becoming.