If you don’t accept at least one rematch after you win, then you lose.

I beat a guy in bullet and he aggressively demanded for a rematch. I declined because I had other plans. He messaged me on multiple of his accounts to verbally abuse me and a week or so later.. 2 of his accounts got banned for cheating. So I guess... he was planning to use an engine on the rematch. He also kept saying he was better than me even tho I destroyed him lol

But imagine configuring an engine to play bullet. You must have so much time on your hands

@youreacoward69 I’m curious if you feel the same about other games or sports. In the “spirit of competition”, do you feel a rematch is always warranted or obligated?

Person 1: *Oh sweet I am gonna have time for a nice game before dinner*

Person 2: *omg this guy didn't accept my rematch offer he must think he is better than me I am so insecure and immature I think I will make a thread and complain about this because focusing on my chess and improving won't work anyway since I am a donkey"

Win, lose or draw, I never accept rematches (unless I'm playing a set match). I don't care beans about my opponents' ratings but I do distrust their psychological need to rematch. 

Wrong. Do not straw man my argument. Some have no plans to play another game. But those that continue on to keep playing have no reason other than some insecurity to decline it. 

I think @youareacoward69’s argument has merit, but because it is online and there is no way to tell what the other party is thinking, you cannot come to a definite conclusion like “all who don’t rematch are cowards”

I beat a guy in bullet and he aggressively demanded for a rematch. I declined because I had other plans. He messaged me on multiple of his accounts to verbally abuse me and a week or so later.. 2 of his accounts got banned for cheating. So I guess... he was planning to use an engine on the rematch. He also kept saying he was better than me even tho I destroyed him lol

Then it would follow and be acceptable for one to distrust your psychological need to decline a rematch

I have an idea. Learn some sportsmanship and take a loss with some dignity. No one owes you anything. In fact, toxic people like you make me want to rematch less often. Sometimes when I rematch people are just toxic for absolutely no reason. It's crazy to me that you take a loss personal. Play to improve and you will enjoy the game more.

Not at all. After declining a rematch, I can have another game with a different opponent in seconds and my urge to play is fulfilled.  This apparent need to play the same person is rather weird.  Do you need to prove something?  Is that what chess is about, shoring up someone's ego?  I prefer not to engage in those type of psychological games and play simply for the joy of playing.  I don't rematch: problem solved.

I don't understand this "playing a different person" as being some kind of automatic preference. The ratings are just about equal and youre doing the exact same thing with a rematch as you would be with a new opponent. And seeing as the amount of variations in chess are astronomical, it doesn't seem reasonable than any two games between any two players (especially on lower levels) will be the same. So subtracting the "newness" of the person (you're playing against positions, not just people), what is so preferable? Once again, I have so say a bit of fear is creeping into your desire to "run" from one opponent to another, who, if you didnt know their user names, you wouldn't be able to tell was a different person to begin with. 

You are crying on a forum about rematches you are a terrible sport and I would never want to play a game with you, you take it personal and you are a sad loser. Pathetic. You are so in denial. You are the only problem with rematches. YOU.

Schizophrenia.

Nothing is obligated. And I play a few sports, and if I played someone and say won, and I knew I was going to play in another game with a random person on roughly the same level as my previous opponent, and they asked for a rematch, what would I have to lose? What's the difference between the same person twice who asks for a rematch and a new random person on roughly the same level? Of course I would rematch. On the one hand, its no different logistically as playing a new random person, and on the other hand, it's a challenge. All things being roughly equal, you're turning down a challenge because you "want to play other random people on or around the same level." Some people may not feel the drive to defend against a challenge, and that's them. But I do think it comes from fear, and not necessarily of the opponent, but the fact that their win could be negated, and their intelligence questioned.

I respect that point of view. Obviously if you were playing in a tournament you wouldn’t be able to accept a rematch even though your new opponent may or may not be random. (Depends on how the brackets are created.) I am not so quick to judge an opponent as a coward simply because a rematch isn’t accepted and i think that is what many are trying to say. I prefer longer games and would accept a rematch if the game was particularly fun and in good sportsmanship. I also know that many have just enough time to sneak in one more game before a class, appointment, meal, or time with friends and loved ones. Just be cautious about labeling everyone as a coward, it simply isn’t accurate. Stating an opinion and framing it as an absolute is typically an error. An absolute must be supported by empirical data.  

hahaha damn, I was hoping we'd play a gaaaaaame. What's the real reason you wouldn't want to play? Too much at stake? People who dislike one another play each other regularly in all types and games and matches everyday. Like I said, think about the underlying reasons for not wanting to play. You're getting quite riled up my friend, quite riled up

You're right about the "all" label. I agree that was inaccurate of me for sure.