Im a bad loser.

I would practice a lot more so that it will come naturally. Thats what i would do.

Just push all your feelings down down down deep inside of you and never ever let them out.

Yup. Golf is a beautifully evil little game.

kaynight wrote:

Take up golf, then you'll know what frustration and anger is all about.

Learn from your loses, know where you went wrong and try to improve your level is the best way. Accept that only you are to blame.

Very honest of you - I see everyone has been helpful!

Let's face it, chess is competitive and we play to win, which boosts our ego. If you feel good about winning then you're going to feel bad about losing - this is fairly normal, look at all the insults and disconnects when winning - You are not alone.

I prefer to feel slightly agressive and disconnected towards my opponent and hate it when they are nice and chatty (some guys use this as a tactic to unsettle opponents!)

You can't be a machine, although some of the best players are close to it! But I think the best players have control of their emotions and treat the highs and lows with caution

I can relate. A few days ago I had a major meltdown during a casual OTB match with a family member. We're about equal in skill, but I had made a big blunder in the end game (my two rooks vs their queen, plus some pawns for both). I used the wrong rook to take a pawn, which drastically took the advantage away from me. I was so mad I nearly broke the large wooden king in half. I fumed and stomped around. Couldn't sleep that night. If the blundered move wasn't so crucial, I wouldn't care much. But a reconstruction of the pivotal juncture showed I would have gone on to easily win. Really annoying.

I had a problem with both playing emotionally and "tunnel vision," not looking at the whole position. Playing slow time controls and forcing myself to not make any move in under a minute (I use the stopwatch on my phone to force this) has helped with both problems.

Put your frustration and anger into a hobby.  Maybe start collecting guns and take up target shooting.  Push all those negative feelings deep down inside of you where no one can see them.

What a very American response.

Channel your anger into a hobby where you are actually a danger to other people. Then push your negative feelings deep inside where no one can see them. That way nobody will be able to anticipate your final move.

Many people find solice in becoming extremely devote religious followers and listening to AM talk radio.

Sorry if I seem a bit harsh here, but I promise you my advice is sound.