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Is chess ruining your life?
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zugzwangutan wrote:
While I do have some degree of paranoia that posting a thread with this title will get me in trouble, I still think it's an important subject to broach.
Personally, I am completely obsessed with this game. It has been to varying degrees for the past ten years or so, but is definitely as or more intense now then ever. The problem with this for me is that I have a family.... This game is seriously affecting my ability to be a decent husband and father.
I need to stress that I am not being critical of the game itself, nor of professional players; to do what you love and get paid for it is always great. For someone like me, though, who will never make a living out of it, and is instead on the totally absurd, tail chasing hunt for a higher rating, it is an entirely different scenario.
I would like at some point to go into greater detail, but for now I am just going to get this topic started, and see what others have to say.
Quick note: I am not looking for advice, but instead for the opinions and stories of other's own experience.
Video games or chess is even more addicting lol
Actually I recommend into the breach it helped me play chess a little less lol just play really fun or difficult games to get your mind off it or learn something new (like art )
I have a similar issue (even when I was very little so it isn't just chess for me ) I just get obsessed way to easily and only quit when I have 1000-2000 hours in a game
Unfortunately the only thing you can do is try to change your habits by switching something else instead of chess (like art for example ) just trying to break the habit typically doesn't do anything unless you switch it for something else (sometimes it does it is just really really hard )
Jun 7, 2024
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Allocate specific times for playing and studying chess. Communicate these boundaries with your family to ensure mutual understanding and respect.
Azuresretrogambit wrote:
chess pisses me off. It also pisses me off that people are not realistic about improving. '' oh you can improve'' '' just stop blundering'' like imagine its just that easy. clearly everyone can be a grandmaster. ''you're still improving even if you're stuck'' The blatant lies I hear on the forums.
I recommend blundering just make better blunders instead of worse blunders
And yes you can improve but improvement does not mean increase in elo
Blunder like a 2000 not a 500
chesssblackbelt wrote:
Azuresretrogambit wrote:
chess pisses me off. It also pisses me off that people are not realistic about improving. '' oh you can improve'' '' just stop blundering'' like imagine its just that easy. clearly everyone can be a grandmaster. ''you're still improving even if you're stuck'' The blatant lies I hear on the forums.
you arent learning properly and people on the forums have no clue how to improve either. get a coach.
Yep except for those 2000+ that reached in like ten months or really good 13 year olds
Azuresretrogambit wrote:
chesssblackbelt wrote:
Azuresretrogambit wrote:
chess pisses me off. It also pisses me off that people are not realistic about improving. '' oh you can improve'' '' just stop blundering'' like imagine its just that easy. clearly everyone can be a grandmaster. ''you're still improving even if you're stuck'' The blatant lies I hear on the forums.
you arent learning properly and people on the forums have no clue how to improve either. get a coach.
right. because theres a proper way to learn. I refuse to get a coach until i can bring my self to 1000. If i can't do that then a coach is a waste of time.
Nah I know a guy that I got from 500-800 in a few weeks just cause I showed him a few tricks
yes you shouldn't believe everything they say but they are really helpful he was sorta in the same situation as you were (minus the years wasted ) there are multiple ways to learn true and a lot of coaches also have different styles of teaching it isn't just one way
idk about u