Just downright bad manners

Sorry guys'n gals,,, now is it just me or is the majority of players in the play live format downright rude and ignorant. So many times now after a real tit for tat good ol scrap, I've wanted to either congratulate or encourage opponent, and they're just gone,,,,, what is that all about??

Does the Idea of being behind a screen suddenly make them forget how they should treat people, or were they all just dragged up by the scruff of the neck instead of reared properly.

Does anyone have any thoughts on this matter or am I just over sensitive?  

When I started playing I would say, "gg" to everyone no matter who won. But then I noticed most people just leave quietly, so I stopped.

Regards,

Lou

I always say gg, regardless of who won.  Courtesy is courtesy!

See? Angry birdstar gets the point. Courtesy is courtesy!, it's nice to be nice'n all. A lil gg goes a long way win or lose that's all. But since I'm new to all this online chess buzz, I'll take other's opinions into consideration too and sleep on it hah. cheers for that. 

Good idea too alex-rodriguez!

I largely agree it's not really being rude to not say anything in this case.. But my ideal personal conducts of behavior is like.. if I lose and the winner doesn't say anything, I just leave. If the winner does say gg or so, I probably will too.. If I miraculously happen to be the winner then I feel like I should say something to acknowledge the other persons efforts too.

Much easier to be benevolent when you've already won and have nothing to prove, right? :p

I regularly finish a game with "good game'or "interesting game" and during my on-line 3 day per movers I try and initiate a conversation and get to know my opponent,but rarely is there much of a response,sadly.

So you believe if your opponent doesn't say something to you they are being rude?

Well that is interesting.

When I played, there were times where I didn't notice the chat and wouldn't notice whatever a guy says. This happens often for other players, so chatting with them often leads to no response. Generally not because they want to ignore you, but that they didn't even see it.

Online ettiquete is held to a different standard and I think it makes sense. 

Most of our opponents dont speak the same language anymore.

Half my opponents are indian or indonesian, iranian, russian, serbian, etc.

a waste of time trying to show manners

10 years ago most of those places didnt have internet, so most people were english speaking and showing manners was more worthwhile.

After you've been playing live chess for awhile you'll tire of the formalities. People want to play and play and get on with the show - to the next game.   I have no desire to be rude or have conversations of any kind at all generally, or maybe the occassional brief quip while playing. Based on how I perceive it, and the fact many must feel similarly, clearly you don't have realistic expectations  Some people just want to play chess, and may even be in a hurry and being social isn't the priority.

Now that's rude. Ruder than not saying anything :-| 

if i play same opponet more than one game i used to say ggs when i was done playing but NOW my Iphone auto corrects it to hugs !!???  why? I don't know! but I kept acidently saying hugs and thats just akward and wierd so I stoped doing it.... 

lol

Better than xxoo though, in most cases ;-)

play otb and not on chess.com then you can have time for all the niceties you desperately crave

I want to say "hugs" just to see my opponent respond "?!?"

they usualy dont say anything..... lol

If playing against a salmon alone wouldn't be enough to baffle them, being hugged by one defintely would do the job :p

What? Well you must be hugging wrong. Such a shame. When ever I tell my opponents hugs. We experince a warm embrace. One of trust and understanding. I have had some female opponents cry. They said It was just such a wonderful experince. Their very powerful loving hugs. Filled with joy and excitement.

Its obvious you need to brush up on your hugs. An all this while you thought it was your chess endgame that needed work. Its been the hugs all this time.