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  • #21

    Trivia fact - In News-page searching, under 'low confidence' - There are currently, 2,720,000 'results'! ..{it must be, some sort of attitude 'plague'!} ..lol

  • #22

    The solution is  very simple:

     

    BAD NEWS:

    -When you're not seeing the board good, play a dummy account where you play just to play and expect to lose.

     

    -When you're not seeing the board good, find something else to do.

     

    -Periods of "not seeing the board good" can last from days to weeks.

     

    -There is nothing you can do about it when you're not seeing it good. You can listen to your own annotation of your most brilliant moments, and you won't be able to "click" into that mind frame  no matter how much you try. If you're not seeing it good, that's all there is to it. There is nothing you can do to switch gears.

     

    GOOD NEWS:

     

    -With that said...from the sounds of it, I have a solution that you will DEFINITELY be able to use...I'm sure of it...

     

    OBSERVE:

     

    Stress is a vision-killer. Nothing produces tunnel-vision faster than having fear/anxiety/seeing-ghosts/fearing a loss/fearing a strong opponent/fearing the position on the board/fearing a rating drop/fearing you're not playing your best/fearing a mistake.

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    Nothing produces sieve-defense, losing positions, and toothless attacks, faster than trying to hide from ghosts!!!!!

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    What's better than seeing the board good?

    This is why we play. We play for these days.

    LIKE YOU, I'm extremely touchy. Certain meds trashed my concentration/imagination/vision/calculation.

    So the ratings will always go up and down and all around depending on these kinds of things:
    -meds
    -sleep
    -diet
    -real-life agendas/stress/bills/dentist-appts/spousal-issues etc.
    -sugar seems to hurt
    -coffee seems to help, but not too much or else anxiety kicks in, and ghosts appear. Take a few sips ever hour. Just enough.

    Just play the game for what you love it for.

    I know that when I start getting to the upper echelons of my rating...I feel like my NEED to win, and my obsession to continue improvement becomes annoying to the point where I feel like my games are damned before they begin simply because I want that win so bad. FEAR IS THE ENEMY OF STRONG CHESS.

    So all I need to remember is that I play the game because I love it when I'm playing my best. So it's ALL about just making the best moves as much as possible. This is my focus. When I focus on the ratings, I lose the plot and go insane. When I focus on my knowledge and love for the game, my imagination, concentration, calculation, vision and focus don't really seem to fail me because it's as though I'm encouraging them to move to the forefront, instead of scaring them away with ghosts.

    Bottom line? I don't remember playing too many strong games while worrying about losing, and everything else, at the same time. Do you?

    All my best games are when I'm in a completely different headspace of artistry, ingenuity, and invention. Sure I don't want to lose, sure I don't want to make a mistake in a sharp position, but it's no more than a fleeting thought before I get back to my focus, artistry, concentration imagination, ingenuity, invention, and calculation.

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    I would recommend that you play unrated and remember why you play, but I never did that myself because I can't really bring myself to play unrated. It's that competitiveness.

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    Also, you should know, I've never played at my very best for more than a few weeks straight. I ALWAYS lose my edge somehow. So while it sounds like everyone is giving trite advice, I find I have to join their chorus when I say: You will have ups and downs. You're not the only one that can play at a 1900 level one day, and then drop to an ELO of 1500 over the course of a weekend. 

    You win some, you lose some.

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    Stop expecting yourself to win.
    Stop expecting yourself to gain points.

    As a chess fan, you have only one ambition.
    As a chess enthusiast, you have exactly only one focus.
    As a chess engineer, you have exactly only one job.
    As an efficiency expert, you have only one bottom line.

    NOTHING ELSE SHOULD BE IN YOUR MIND EXCEPT FOR ONE THING AT ALL TIMES. WIN/LOSE/DRAW. BLUNDER/BRILLIANCE. 

    100% of the time you are doing one thing...and one thing only...

    ...

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    FINDING THE MOST EFFICIENT AND BEST SQUARES FOR YOUR PIECE TO OCCUPY, AND WATCHING AND ADMIRING THE COMBINATION OF ART AND MATH, AS YOU ACCOMPLISH THIS PREROGATIVE.

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  • #23

    see only thing to develop confidence is to play and win, and to win just see what did your opponent moved and why, also dont take it so seriously, just play like that you are a part of the game hope it helped

  • #24
    calidoggg wrote:

    I'm playing so badly lately.  I'm losing to players rated 400 points lower than me.  Any tips on getting back the confidence?  I've realized chess is a very psychological game, and you tend to make your own negative bed.  How can I get out of this funk?

     

    Look at the bright side.  Those players rated 400 points lower than you will soon will soon be rated higher than you.  Psychologically, it will be easier to handle losing to higher rated players.

  • #25

    I just want to play my last two games of the year I've been playing so badly myself.

  • #26

    Just play a lot of bullet. The adrenaline will flush out the negativity.

  • #27
    Stefan, strong, I think you are absolutely right and we all can learning from your experience, thanks.
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