is it by a fellow player or an official chess.com member?
Rematch or no rematch...
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Mar 28, 2023
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#23
It's an official forum, you have to apply and be accepted. MGleason is the moderator.
Apr 18, 2023
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#25
Apr 18, 2023
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#26
I dont always accept if either 1 our ratings are so disproportionate that I have to beat you 5-1 or greater to break even but even then sometimes who cares, people who play troll openings in hyper and just shuffle their king back and forth I might not wanna play you and you can hate me for that. I also like to look at the games bc if I keep playing i'll probably forget, and especially hyper and 1/0 those games are intense especially hyper and i need to take a breather. now publishing private correspondence is not good etiquette the exception doesn't always define the rule. I hear the opinionss of competition and ect. but it's really not that deep in my opinion. Ive gotten multiple messages these are just 2 in 1 day. where I'll win twice then move on as well as I lose and they need to tell me how crappy I am. Unles we are fiends and are playing a match im not under obligation to give you a rematch and you're not entitled to get 1. Ive been denied rematches many times and sure I get ticked but I just dont think it's that deep.
Apr 28, 2023
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#28
If you lose horribly, like if I capture all your pieces at the end, and you try to request a rematch, I will decline it and laugh in your face. Or if you blunder real bad and are easily going to lose but then you try to draw, I will destroy you and make you resign now or lose.
rematch are cringe unless you want to farm wins or elo on bad player
May 2, 2023
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#30
The debate may be recurrent, but it always triggers passions. Note that I was not asking whether the rematch was due or not, or whether my opponent "owes" me a rematch. I was simply questioning a strong trend: the rematch after a single game is increasingly declined. It has almost become the rule, and I wonder why. On the other hand, I was pointing out that, by simple observation, there is a much greater chance that your opponent will accept the rematch if he has lost the game, which, one would agree, betrays a general state of mind that is a bit disappointing. Finally, unless I am mistaken, it seems to me that it is those who have got into the habit of systematically refusing the rematch who intervene in the debate with the most virulence: I am not attacking anyone and I invite them to assume calmly. In conclusion, I can't help thinking that this is partly due to a kind of dehumanisation of this type of platform, encouraged by anonymity. Basically, we behave as if we were playing against machines. But hey, that's the way it is now, for better or for worse.
May 2, 2023
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#31
euplere wrote:
\What does this lack of fairplay, this lack of respect for the opponent, encouraged by anonymity, really reflect?
In the comment you just made you claim to speak from a neutral point of view, but in the original post you made it clear that you believe to be fair and respectful, you should accept the rematch.
I can't speak for others, but I DO feel strongly about this. Sometimes I feel tired or ill and just want to quickly jump to the next game after a bad one. Other times I play a last game before bed and I do NOT want to play again with my opponent who's either a night owl or in a different timezone. Usually I'm respected in the latter case, but there was one person who was harassing and dismissive so I ended up blocking him. Plus, sometimes my new game starts before I have time to respond to the rematch request.
There are times I really don't want to rematch and I really wish chess.com had a feature to turn off rematch requests. If they implement that I would appreciate it.
May 3, 2023
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#32
That would be an option indeed (at least it would be clear for both players before engaging). But a feature "best of 3" or "best of 5" would be as well an excellent intiative for those who favor this format.
May 3, 2023
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#34
DreamscapeHorizons wrote:
I've had a few games where I have absolutely crushed, destroyed, laid waste to my opponent's chess army...only to watch the clock time out about 10-30 seconds short of victory. I'm sure there were celebrations like that while I fumed. It happened mostly several weeks after I first joined and wasn't playing quickly enough yet in Rapid 10. I quickly became faster and then...Rapid 15-10 became my very, very good friend! 
An increment is always a good idea. That sudden stop just ruins so many games. Heck, even a 1 second increment can be enough when ur in a clearly won, simplified ending.
May 3, 2023
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#36
DreamscapeHorizons wrote:
An increment is always a good idea. That sudden stop just ruins so many games. Heck, even a 1 second increment can be enough when ur in a clearly won, simplified ending.
That's true I've also had games where they were so good I really wanted to see how they were going to end, a real toss up, but either my opponent or I timed out...to good to end that way.
thanks, i'll check it out