On losing:
To lose means to win at something other than the desired goal. To lose means to successfully do something other than what should have been done in a certain situation. That means doing a bad job with preparations and follow-thru. One really does have to prepare in order to lose.
Winning must be a bad thing since so many people avoid it.
Heh heh. Just thinking outside of the box. Thanks for bringing up the topic of losing.
A lot of people ask about what books they can get to improve their chess. I'm all for reading and studying GM games, and trying to see what they saw. I'm for working on your tactics and studying the endgame.
With all that said, to me the greatest way to improve your chess is looking over your losses.
Now I hate to lose. I'm very competitive, but losing in chess gives "Us" an opportunity to learn very significant information and teach yourself what to either look for next time, or what not to do next time.
It can actually be very enjoyable to look over a loss and see that you had played better and just missed the correct course.
I encourage you to look at losing in a different light. From now on after you lose, take the game and analyse it before playing the next one.