The Frustration of Losing

You know the sort. Where you're winning all game, putting together a strong attack, or actively foiling your opponent's plans, and out of nowhere, a horrendous blunder turns everything around.

How, psychologically, do you deal with those things?

I do drugs.

http://www.chess.com/forum/view/general/doping-in-chess

ZING! I was REALLY hoping the first comment wasn't going to be something annoying like 'Just gotta learn to do better next time.'

Cberman, know just how you feel.  I guess that's why I'm a 1300.  .  I'm excited to keep playing and learning, so I'm just going to have to look closer every time.  That has to lead to my improvement.  That is what keeps me going.

Those are the most useless comments ever(next to "god" comments)!

I offer draws, take as long as possible to move and if I'm really lost I'll go on vacation.

I definitely understand the pettiness. I almost always have to inject some comment like 'Wow. I just love throwing away winning positions' into the chat. Lotsa grump.

I stay away from verbal abuse for the most part (it sometimes takes effort), but I'm definitely not pleasant.

The experience that plissed me off beyond all human comprehinsion was a while back.  I had the game won, and my opponent was able to cause me to blunder like an idiot, into a draw. No loss burned my arse anywhere near that. I would have much rather just lost outright.

Remember dueds, its not about winning or loseing, its about ghetting your king to the otheir side man

I do drugs.

Those are the worst.  After managing to not kill myself I remember all players have these types of games, and not just in chess.

I like the one where Kasparov was destroying this kid out of the opening and it was all but over.  The kid (one of those teenage GMs) is desperate and might as well try a knight sac to complicate things.  Kasparov doesn't accept the sac (he should have, it was unsound) and went on to lose.  To add insult to injury at the end of the tourney they gave the kid the brilliancy prize even though all his moves were worse than Kasparov's and he only won because Kasparov blundered.

It may not help you, but this is what helps me.  I bet Kasparov still remembers this game and lost sleep over it for a month heh.  Not a great loser, Kaspy took the mic at the award ceremony and ranted for 15 minutes about how the kid didn't deserve it and how the judges betrayed him etc etc.

Hilarious!

Ah, here it is: http://www.chessbase.com/newsdetail.asp?newsid=851

It was at Linares, he lost to Radjabov who was 15 at the time.

Lol, ironically, whenever I blunder horribly, it's when I'm in a losing position and am desperate for moves.  Sure, there's no chance whatsoever of me winning, but it's certainly better than a blunder when I am winning. (though sometimes I do mini-blunders. Fortunately, my opponent rarely catches on due to desperation)

 This behaviour is quite rude.  Offering draws should only be done in positions which are actually draws.  It is simply rude to your opponent to offer a draw when you are losing.  As for taking as long as possible to move - if there is still some play in the position and you want to play the strongest moves possible, it is understandable but in positions that are really lost - (a piece or more down, with no counterplay) this type of behaviour is also quite rude.  As for going on vacation because you're losing - shame on you. 

I try to find a general principle that I broke which allowed such a thing to occur. If there isn't a general principle that I know of that I broke, I create one for myself.

Economically sadly, I wasn't kidding.

 Now THATS funny

Wow! You're kinda' uptight!