Tips for dealing with people with chess addiction

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TIPS FOR DEALING WITH PEOPLE WITH CHESS ADDICTION


1. People with chronic chess addiction seem unreliable (we can’t count on ourselves). When feeling better we promise things (and mean it); when in serious chess addiction, we may not even show up.

2. An action or situation may result in chess addictionseveral hours later, or even the next day. Delayed chess addiction is confusing to people who have never experienced it.

3. Chess addiction can inhibit listening and other communication skills. It’s like having someone shouting at you, or trying to talk with a fire alarm going off in the room. The effect of chess addiction on the mind can seem like attention deficit disorder. So you may have to repeat a request, or write things down for a person with chronic chess addiction. Don’t take it personally, or think that they are stupid. 

4. The senses can overload while in chess addiction. For example, noises that wouldn’t normally bother you, seem too much. 

5. Patience may seem short. We can’t wait in a long line; can’t wait for a long drawn out conversation. 
6. Don’t always ask “how are you” unless you are genuinely prepared to listen it just points attention inward. 
7. Chess addiction can sometimes trigger psychological disabilities (usually very temporary). When in chess addiction, a small task, like hanging out the laundry, can seem like a huge wall, too high to climb over. An hour later the same job may be quite OK. It is sane to be depressed occasionally when you hurt. 
8.Chess addiction can come on fairly quickly and unexpectedly. Chess addiction sometimes abates after a short rest. Chronic chess addicted people appear to arrive and fade unpredictably to others. 
9. Knowing where a chessboard is, such as a couch, a bed, or comfortable chair, is as important as knowing where a bathroom is. A visit is much more enjoyable if the chronic chess addicted person knows there is a chessboard if needed. A person with chronic chess addiction may not want to go anywhere that has no chessboard.
10. Small acts of kindness can seem like huge acts of mercy to a person in chess addiction . Your offer of a pillow or a cup of tea can be a really big thing to a person who is feeling temporarily helpless in the face of encroaching chess addiciton.
11. Not all chess addiction is easy to locate or describe. Sometimes there is a body-wide feeling of discomfort, with hard to describe chess addiction in the entire back, or in both legs, but not in one particular spot you can point to. Our vocabulary for chess addiction  is very limited, compared to the body’s ability to feel varieties of discomfort. 
12. We may not have a good “reason” for the chess addiction. Medical science is still limited in its understanding of chess addiction. Many people have chess addiciton  that is not yet classified by doctors as an officially recognized “disease”. That does not mean it is not real.

heinzie

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Rolandwood

I don't have an addiction.

Chess is good for you.

Distractions that imperil my concentration lead to defeat and must be eliminated.

The 64 squares of the chess board have all the answers.

Boz3030

No such thing as withdrawels with the chess.com app!

Pat_Zerr

Sorry, I didn't read the OP.  I was too busy playing chess.

shequan

very funny. but seriously, blitz chess is kind of like a drug, like all other video games, same type of "addiction" at work here.

AndyClifton
heinzie wrote:

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AndyClifton wrote:
heinzie wrote:

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heinzie

At least you tried to google it. It's TerugVindPost, second result in the list

AndyClifton

Okay, I tried looking that up, but then I came upon this page that looked strangely a bit like English, but all sort of deranged too.  So anyway, I kept on looking down the list at all the other acronymical possibilities (I think my favorite was "The Volleyball Page").

dharmaboy

There's a good Wikipedia article on online game addiction. Although it's about video games, all the insights seem relevant.

There are also the following 9 diagnostic questions drawn from this article. Just subsititute "chess" for "video." I just took it and my girlfriend and daughter both agreed I'm an addict, confirming the obvious:

1. When  I am not playing with the video games, I keep
thinking about them, i.e. remembering  games, planning the next game, etc.)
2. I spend an increasing amount  of time playing video games
3. I have tried to control, cut back or stop playing,
or I usually play with the video games over a longer period  than I intended
4. When  I lose in a game or I have not obtained  the desired results, I need to play again to achieve my target
5. When I can't  use the video  games I get restless or irritable
6. When I feel bad, e.g. nervous, sad, or
angry, or when I have problems, I use the video games more often
7. Sometimes I conceal my video game playing to the
others, this is, my parents, friends, teachers…)

8. In order to play video  games I have skipped  classes or work, or lied, or stolen, or had an argument or a fight  with someone
9. Because of the video game playing I have reduced  my homework,  or schoolwork, or I have not eaten, or I have gone  to bed late, or I spent  less time with my friends and family.


To these, I would add an extra item, "After an addictive chess session that caused me to miss a commitment or withdraw from loved ones, I engage in self-criticism, and feel anxious, fearful, hopeless, sad, and/or depressed."













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