Why is everyone so hell bent on winning and not learning how to play?

Chess.com, Lichess, etc.. has a serious cheating problem with low rated players.   These sites put most of the anti cheat efforts into the higher rated players leaving it chaotic at best for the lower rated players.   I have been playing on Chess.com since 2010 and it has got to the point where 3/5 games are players using an engine.  What is best is when you call them out, they stop and cannot play.   This is a problem for two reason:

Game integrity

Newer players to the game that will feel hopeless and stop playing.  

But the bigger question is what is wrong in society that everyone feels they need to cheat in chess or video games to feel good about themselves?  Has likes on social media become so important that our youth and some sad adults have to cheat to get that same kind of euphoria from winning.     

I wish Chess.com would make a stand and really start targeting cheating at the lower levels to really protect the game's integrity.

I never seen a cheater in recent time, seriously why you guys whine so much. Just get good, idk

I agree that the idea is not to win but to learn to get to higher rating at long therm.

Most people find thinking too much totally boring which means if they had to play serious chess they would just quit.

The site puts effort into cheat detection at the higher levels because using a chess engine would result in high level play. I don't even get the theory here, you think there are people cheating to get to 600 rating? Using what, MS-DOS Fritz? ...or it's just sour grapes. I don't know what to believe.

Cool

Cheating discussion please not in the general forums and report anyone suspicious