a update for my mental health, should i just stop playing?

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Kowarenai

every game now and then just keeps making me feel like crap playing everyday and being trapped inside my lonely apartment. should i just quit playing chess for a couple of days cause its just getting to the point where everyday all i do is just stay in bed, watch some random videos and play games which make me feel sick and angry. i am very burnt out lately and barely feel any energy playing a lot these past few days and my sleep is just making me feel even more like crap. i recently did make a thread and some things have been making me happy from here and there but its just sad. my headaches or just entire motivation is dead from the moment i wake up and every day its just random snack or fast food i eat which aren't even healthy. after that i just call some family members and return to my bed just either sleeping, playing or thinking about lots of things. i did mention i would want to talk with a psychologist or therapist as well last post but i really am just having days like "whats wrong with me? why do i feel so cheezy" and its just burning me inside with my body physically feeling warm and just myself entirely being there doing nothing except being frustrated with myself. i have been begging my sister to let me go to her house as i have just been feeling crazy trapped in my apartment for days now being here all day and isolated. tomorrow i am hoping i can go that i can spend time and hopefully play something i haven't used in many years to try and fill the void making myself a bit better and distracted from the same cheez i feel everyday. been trying to stream very late and up actively chatting on discord which is getting me a bit tired at this point as it just feels like me randomly spamming and wanting to talk with literally anyone so i don't have to feel lonely or insane in my boring room. i went to a 7/11 right now, bought some random drinks and food which didn't make me feel any better but i am here and just writing this as a diary of these past weeks as i am just feeling like total crap and kind of like a dying corpse. what should i do guys? i want some advice as i am stuck at this point and each day isn't getting easier

https://www.chess.com/forum/view/off-topic/how-should-i-deal-with-stress-70274077

here is the form i am referring to so some understand why i feel worse but again i really just appreciate all the advice and some happy achievements but i am just kind of feeling dead inside

 

llama36

I've been though very similar. A professional can help, but a few tips...

I feel like by themselves these will seem dumb and basic, but all together it helps... first of all you need something that will get you out of bed that involves another person or people. Typically this is either a job (it can be part time, that's fine) or volunteer work (find a local animal shelter for example). And when I say job, it's NOT for money, it's for your mental health, the money is secondary.

Once you have something that makes you set an alarm to wake up, and interact with other people, it becomes a lot easier to fix other little things, like going to bed at the same time every night, eating at the same times every day, and getting exercise. Exercise can be as simple as putting 2-3 gallons of water in a backpack and walk around for 30 minutes. As long as it gets your heart rate up that's good... again it's NOT to get strong or lose weight, it's primarily for your metal health (exercise releases chemicals that make you feel better).

I also read a thing that said depression goes up with the amount of time people spend in front of a screen. So think about a hobby that interests you. It can be simple like every day you'll draw one picture or write a short story. Some activity that doesn't involve a phone / tablet / computer.

llama36

By the way drawing or writing can help work through some emotions, especially if you get stuck in a loop thinking about something over and over and feeling really bad. It can be useful to think about things thoroughly, but if your head is stuck on repeat and it's not leading to productive action, then it's not helping you. Think about something else, meditate (which is thinking about nothing) or like I said write or draw to get some of these things out. Leave the apartment, put down the screen, interact with people at a job or volunteer place... yeah that about covers it for non-professional advice. Good luck.

Duck

Whenever I'm down or feel like I'm burnt-out I go outside for a breath of fresh air. Exercising and eating right can also help. If your feelings get the best of you, I recommend seeking further help like a psychologist. 

EndofWorl

I wouldn't take these virtual chess games too seriously. Is there a hobby that you enjoy doing whether you win or lose?

Woollensock2
Plenty of exercise and fresh air, will soon put right ! ✌️😎
Woollensock2
PS. remember that chess is just a game ! …….and nothing else !
Bulliedofthesite

Many great destressors are free and accessible. Walking, fresh air, chatting, music, sleeping.... Whatever works best for you. I write and delivered a course called Stand Back from the Edge which addressed this and the results were good. Look after yourself :)

FaithfulServant

Whenever I feel like that I normally go and walk my dog in the woods. It might be different for you if you don’t believe in God, but I like to take walks and just vent and talk to him. I’ll find a book read it, or maybe do some chores to get something done. I’ll make a few goals to get stuff done or to do things and then I have something to spend my time working for it instead of sitting in my room.

Silent_Tears

I highly recommend talking to a therapist. That is a great idea @kowarenai 

InfamousTrophyGiver

Ok to start with you need to touch grass, from their it's easy my friend 🙏✌️